Okay. Here is the deal. My husband has to be at work at 6 AM and of course when he gets uip he makes me get uop and fix his lunch, iron his clothes, etc... I hate it. I hate it. I hate it!!!!!!!!!!!!! Oh and don't forget to make my tea!!! Then he gripes at me for even thinking about going back to bed after he leaves. Talks about how easy I have it with the option to go back to bed...blah blah blah.... gripes at me for feeding the baby before he leaves instead of waiting until after. Oh, and by the way he may have fed his child about 5 times in the entire six months of his life--grumbling at that even.... And no staying in nbed is not an option when he turns on the lights, the radio or television and either rips the blankets off me telling me to get up or rocks me and pushes me till I get up. Only once in the 5 years that we have been married has he even thought about being considerate and letting me sleep while he got himself out of the house..But I guess that just didn't work for him and so NOOOOOooOO He won't even think about that again!!!!!!!

I am so mad!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I'm not going to hang out online today. I'll bit people's heads off the way I'm feeling right now.

See ya later..

*hugs for Stringaling*
I'd be mad too.

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awwww, that IS annoying! It sure doesn't seem like he's being very considerate to me....it's HARD work staying home with a little one, you need your rest, especially if you're having to get up at night with the baby...and it's not like the baby will sleep in until noon, you'd still be getting up early, just not as early as he does.

Can you make his lunch and have his clothes ironed the night before? Then you wouldn't have to do it in the morning....I'm not sure what to do about the tea thing, tho....too bad he doesn't drink coffee, that would be an easy fix!

Well, one thing for sure...don't let him make you feel guilty about taking a nap during the day or going back to bed after he leaves....us moms need our rest! What he doesn't know won't hurt him....

String, is everything else all right? Your husband's behavior is worrisome to me. Other than his attitude, I mean he shouldn't be actually pushing you to get you out of bed...

Yeah, I agree....turning on the lights is one thing....ripping off the covers and pushing you to get out of bed is quite another.... :unsure:

Stringaling, I do these things for my husband too, but not at 6 a.m. Can't you do some of this the night before?

I make his lunch while I'm cleaning up from dinner. Then I set up the coffee maker. He's a plumber, so there's no ironing. I just make sure he always has clean clothes. I usually get up with him because I prefer to be on the same schedule and be up before the kids. I do these things because I want to, not because I have to so that makes a difference in how I feel too, I think.

I have found over the years, that the best way to change this kind of situation is to change how I approach it. Now I'm not there, so I don't know what's going on. All I can tell you is how I've handled it.

I had a problem with my husband about a year and a half ago. I prayed for years for God to change him and finally I just prayed to God to help me cope better. I told God that if I had to do this, then he had to change me so I could handle it. And my answer was pretty fast, and pretty harsh (from God) - just do your job. So that's what I did. I did my best to do my very best at being a wife and mother. And my husband saw the change in me, and in turn he changed.

I hope this helps. I mean, I just wanted more sanity for myself, and that's exactly what I got. God wants you to be happy too.

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