HOW does one go about loving the spouse's family? I don't have a problem with hubby's parents, but rather his (one) brother and a couple of his sisters drive me totally INSANE.

Without going into too much detail about the awful "hateful witch" that I apparently am....what do you do to show your spouse that you don't really HATE their family?

No, he didn't really call me a witch, but he thinks I passionately hate his family. :rollseyes:

Erm... you.. mean... your NOT a witch? Er was that wit a B?

mmm anyways...

I have always let the person I dislike er have a problem wit know I have a problem wit em er the like. sarah's mom for example, she knows I don't particularly care for er an it's not er even, it's the actions she's been doin for years. I've had words wit Sarah's sister but nuthin real big, on the whole I like em.

How do you go bout tellin your hubby you think his faimly is a wreck? Well.. I think I'd jes say so, the one thin I can say though, is don't try to use em as a ref between you an them, that'll be to much like takin sides an jes turns into a big mess, your his wife so he MUST by defintion back you 100% but it's far better to not put em in the poisition in the first place.

Is there any room to negotiate a settlement? I mean is there some common ground where ya'll could sort thins out so that this isn't even an issue anymore?

I'll be the first to admit that yes, I can be a witch/bitch some days. Abe just had 2 weeks off on paid vacation and only this morning did we have a big argument which led to his family.

I have another question. Tell me if I'm being paranoid.

Abe's brother (who is single, 36 and still living at home with mommy & daddy) but he has a job and is apparently in this bicycling club and after work, wants to come here to take a shower so he can head off to his biking club. I've always hated this. I've expressed my thoughts and feelings to Abe and he's ignoring me when it comes to this. I don't mind him coming over for an occasional VISIT, but just to shower?? He brings his own towel and stuff. He claims that going back home is way out of his way. I figure maybe a 15 - 20 minute difference. Hasn't this guy thought of using a public shower somewhere? As in IN the city where he rides his bike?? Abe (probably having a stupid moment) doesn't think they have that. :doh: Of course they do.

So yeah...this is one of my peeves.

As for his sisters...they know full well what I think of them. That, I did not bother even trying to hide.

ummm isn't that only legal in like Arkansas?

Meh sometimes Misty thinks I hater her family... because I have no trouble telling them to F off, and have no issues if they never darken my doorstep again if they don't like the way I run my household...... She fails to understand that I tell teh same damned thing to my family... hell I'll MF my family faster tha I'll MF hers......

But I tell it like it is.... and she thinks that's being cruel and mean......