Okay my husband wants to celebrate the Twelve Days of Christmas similar to the way it was done in the past. He wants to do something "special" every day with the kids from Christmas day to Jan. 5. The problem is that my mom wants to keep the kids for a day or so while she is off work for Christmas break, but since my husband wants to do the Twelve days thing, he says that they can't go visit Grandma(who lives out of town and doesn't see them much anyway) We put up or tree the other day and he complained and grumbled the whole time because he wants the "christmas season" to be the twelve days ONLY. He would rather have waited till late Christmas eve to put up the tree. We are going to my mom's on Christmas eve and his on Christmas day and he is unhappy about that. it is too early he says. I am so frustrated. The twelve day thing would be good ans all but he expects me to be baking all sorts of goodies and for us to do something fun every dayu in the two or three hours between the time he comes home and the kids go to bed. (that will include dinner time) I don' like the idea of cramming stuff in every day for near two weeks and the demands that this will place on me to get things done for this. I don't like that he is pissy about going to his In-laws on Christmas eve. I don't like that he won't let us decorate much at all before Christmas this year..
Where does the submission come in and where should the compromise come in??
I'll check back tomorrow. I'm off for the day.
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I think the submission comes in where you are agreeing to do the 12 days of Christmas thing....but the compromise needs to be finding a happy medium that will be accomodating to the both of you!
You should still be able to incorporate going to both Grandparent's as well as the 12 days thing....family, IMO, is a huge part of the holidays.
Good luck...I look forward to hearing other's opinions on this!! ;)
I don't see why this has to be about submission at all, unless you have already tried to compromise and feel all these issues are at an unresolvable impasse. Even then, one can only submit if one can honestly put it aside and let the feelings go. You are obviously still riled up about the whole thing. If you can't get over it, then you're only choice to is to talk it out more. You can't just sit on your feelings and be mad.
I think you and he still have some talking to do.
SUBMISSION!!!!! NOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!
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