Okay, I know this will make me sound like a terrible, horrible, selfish person, but her goes...

Was anyone else ever disappointed when you found out that you were pregnant/gonna have a baby? I have three kids and when I learned about each of my pregnancies, I cried. I was angry and extremely frustrated and disappointed. I cannot even comprehend wanting to get pregnant or even trying. All three of my pregnancies were unplanned and even happened while I was trying to avoid them...

I know I know Most of you probably think I am messed up inthe head or horrible or something, but this is how I feel. Especially when the baby is screaming and crying it reminds me of how I did not want to be pregnant.
Birth control is not condoned by the Church and so the best thing I can do is NFP( Not to mention that I have been on the pill before and every kind messed me up in one way or another--my first was conceived on the pill)

Another unwanted pregnancy is me greatest fear right now...I struggle. Sex becomes a very risky thing to engage in and because of the serious consequences, I am fearful of just relaxing and fully enjoying sex. Right now I am insisting that condoms be used EVERY time because I am too woriied of what might happen. I am too scared of getting pregnant again. It is the most miserable, painful, uncomfortable time I have ever experienced. I do not want it to ever happen again.

I envy couples who were actually able to be mnarried and together for a while without the terrors of pregnancy interfering... I atarted my marriage out pregnant so there has never been any "us" time....And during the pregnancy doesn't count because I was throwing up several times a day for 5 months and was miserable and totally not myself...

awwww...I'm sorry you had to go through all that! :hug:

I wouldn't say I was disappointed when I found out I was PG, but I knew it would mean an end to alot of stuff DH & I had been doing....talk about a lifestyle change!!

I guess for me, it was more of a conscious effort to change, like, my way of thinking....does that make sense?

If we found out that we were PG right now...I know my wife would be VERY upset.

Neither of my kids were planned by us. I wasn't upset, I was just nervous excited.

But I'm sorry you're feeling like this Stringaling. That must make it very hard to have an intimate relationship with your DH. You need some peace sister. I'm sure you are praying about this, but maybe for something other than what God has planned for you. Have you prayed for God's will and peace over this situation?

My oldest was born four months after our wedding, if that tells you anything.

We were committed and engaged, and were planning to get married in March of '99. We also planned to not have any kids because we wanted to devote our entire lives to our careers (which, for my wife, included the White House).

Well, God said, "If you're not going to play by the rules, you will be penalized." I'll never forget the day she told me. I felt like I'd been hit. :hammer: And, we honestly discussed putting 'it' up for adoption. Neither of us could do it. So, we moved our wedding up from March '99 to October '98. Sweet little girl was born in February '99, one week after Momma's birthday.

We wanted our kids to be about three years apart. God stepped in again and said, "You're not ready." There's four-and-a-half years between girls.

Though both pregnancies were trying times (I was unemployed until very shortly before the youngest was born), I wouldn't trade those girls for anything in the world.

Our 1st was semi-planned....we both we're happy.

Our 2nd was VERY planned (wife had 2 miscarries in between)....

Our 3rd was NOT planned....we were discussing the thought of a third. Wifey was VERY happy to have 3...I still wasn't sure 3 was a good idea.


After the delivery it was off to the CHOP shop for Dad.....<heavy sigh>


However, SEX has been GREAT ! !

(put that in your sig)

Can I use that as a sig?

B) :ph43r: :bolt:

Now onto the serious reply.....

Well I'd be lieing if I said Misty getting pregnant now wouldn't worry me.

We don't have the funds to support the four of us number five is really going to hose us. I'd also be lieing if I said that I wouldn't be so frigging happy and proud you wouldn't believe it.

We're not looking to get pregnant, but we're not trying to prevent it either. What God wills he wills what he doesn't he doesn't.

no way dude...you can't modify it...

Didn't think so... but I couldn't help it..... it was just there SCREAMING to be done....

*hugs for Stringaling*
Actually I'm going through a pregnancy scare right now, and I'm very upset about it. So lots and lots of hugs for you...

Oh, I know exactly how you feel. Its terrifying. Try to stay calm, getting too emotional can throw off your period and make you late. Let us know how it turns out.. :hug:

Update: Nopes! A lot of needless worrying! Thank goodness...

Congratulation!

:D