I'm having a real struggle in the past couple of days with lusting after the young (being 45 and under) women who are out jogging and doing other activities in shorts and sportsbras. It has gotten warm and the clothing just seems to have fallen off!

Part of the problem is that I can't get my wife to dress like that or participate in physically active activities. So I'm seeing these women as more ideal at the moment than she is.

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I would sympathize but that NEVER happens to me....

Sorry you hadn't gottin many.. erm.. useful.. responses to your thread yet hehe, sorry I have been lousey sick for a week an jes hadn't done much of anythin.

Ok, plain an simple? Blinders! Simpleir then that? I have a billion chances a second to fail. So... what do I do? I choose not to fail.

While they may sound lame it's really the truth, I can choose to lust, I can choose to cheat I can choose to kill, I can choose to sin in a million ways, but I choose not to. It comes down to a choice, what reminded me bout this thread today was a gal on the side of the road, donno what she was doin but she wasn't clothed very well an the first look was a "oh theres a half naked gal on the side of the road" the second look was captured an crusfied wit Christ. Because the second look would have been sinful lust.

Now my friend, becareful wit your second paragraph. I could very easily run out an cheat er do anythin at all an justify it because Sarah looks like a beached whale (love you dear) er cause she doesn't excersie er flat out refuses to stand on er head an do the splits when we have sex. That justification might sound good to you an me, an we can debate it on our way to hell but we both know it won't hold a candle before God.

So, my advice? Stick some blinders on, literally put your hand up beside your head an make the choice that you are not goin to look. Lust is sumthin we havta deal wit in our own minds an it is defintely a struggle an a problem even I deal wit an the only availble option I know of is to make the choice that you are not goin to look, you are not goin to lust an thus you will not fail. My prayers be wit you because I struggle greatly wit lust because... well... obviously I am not home an cain't have sex but maybe a few times a month... you wanna talk bout struggle... buddy I got it!

Meh I can't ge my wife to dress like that either but I still try like hell....

The only woman I care to look at dressed that way wears a matching wedding band to mine....

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I'm sorry that you're struggling with this. I have to agree with Louis on this. You have to make the deliberate dec ision not to indulge those thoughts and to turn your eyes. Although you have become to prefer that body type as "ideal", you have to come back to reality and realize that those bodies are the exception. The average person isn't as built or tight as they are. Also, such attention to the physique most often indicates a stronger draw towards vanity in that person. Remember that. God has given you your wife for a reason. It is His will that she be your mate. Your challenge, from God, it to learn to love her fully and unconditionally and to accept her as she is. I speak to everyone here, including myself. When we start looking outside at others, we begin to become dissatisfied with what God has given us. Also it is not our place as wives or husbands to try to change our spouse's look or behavior to get it closer to what we might find "ideal". There are things about my husband that I certainly don't see as ideal, but to dwell on it and resent those things only prove me to be superficial and selfish. I pray that we all can learn to overcome the superficialties of thise world and learn to truly love.

Are you saying that anyone who gets regular exercise is vain?

I know how you feel, bro. I had the same problem when I worked at a mall recently. And my boss was no help - "Hey! Check her out!" or "Wow! Look at the @$$ on her!"

I've recently began praying a lot more during the day. I pray when I wake up - nothing major or pre-meditated, just a simple "Hi, I'm here and ready to start the day with You, Lord!" or something along those lines. I pray when my car pulls into the parking garage. I pray throughout the day whenever I feel the nudge. I pray when my car pulls into my driveway. I pray before each meal. I pray with my kids and I pray at bedtime with my wife. (Come on - sing it with me! Every time I feel the Spirit moving in my heart I will pray!)

Am I bragging? No. This is not something I really desired to do when I started. But I was facing so much temptation I could not handle it on my own. Confessing this problem to my wife, she suggested that I pray more often. It takes a while to get in the habit. But by moving God to the center of your life you are building up your armor.

Oh - and don't ask your wife to wear revealing clothing if she doesn't want to. Respect and find extraordinary beauty in her modesty! :eyebrows:

I'm saying that people who put lots of focus on the appearance of their bodies tend to be vain.

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so your saying ALL WOMEN are vain....

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So is exercising focusing on "appearance"? I sure hope not! I love doing my exercise!

I think the thing here is that women are running around outdoors in bra sports and such....soon it'll be about bikinis....MEN just need to have the decency to look away if it causes them to stumble.

So what if we are?? :naughty:

LOOK the other way.
I don't find it wrong. I prefer pants when I run. Even in the summer. I have friends who run in a lot less. Run a marathon and see how you feel in baggy clothes...etc.

In such cases, women are just as responsible for putting it all on display, but expecting no one to look. If a man stumbles because a woman dresses so skimpy, she is at fault for causing him to stumble by presenting the temptation.

God tells us to dress modestly and cover our bodies so as not to tempt others...

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THANK YOU string.....

Like this?

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NOPE!


Check the makeup, hairstyling and seductive "I want your body" eyes....

Modesty is sexy as well......so guess what? We're all screwed.