Sarah an I are havin a slight problem.. one that is growin exponetially really..

The simple facts of the matter are this:

I think she's to easy on the kids

She thinks she's not

An often thinks I'm to hard on them.

So.... what do we do? I hear on the telephone Liam in the back ground screamin his head off, an I know the sound, he's throwin a fit bout sumthin er nother. Drives me nuts cause I won't put up wit that when I am home, but ... an this is where Sarah's goin to git mad, but it's how I think. She allows em to git away wit alot more then me. She swears she doesn't let em git away wit it, but when I've been home I can jes see how the kids will simply run er over, an soon as I git upset er do sumthin, all of it stops immediately, an I tell Sarah that they are runnin er over an she jes gits frustrated. So... what the heck do we do?

Honestly Sarah is caught in the middle, she gits it from the kids, then she gits me on the phone gittin upset because in my opinion she is lettin em "git away wit it". But in so far as I can see, the only remedy is for Sarah to do sumthin bout it. I can scream an hollar bout it an the like, but she's got to be the one that puts er foot down somehow er nother.

Suggestions? Ideas?

They don't fool round wit me, but they do wit Sarah so what can we do bout it?

It's fear of the dominant male.....

My kids do the same thing to Misty, as do her sister's kids (they don't even listen to their parents half the time until I tell them to listen to their parents if they are at my place)

Well, some things bother you more than Sarah, but the kids will be confused if their tantrums or whatever are handled differently by you guys. That's where you need to be unified on how you deal with it.

That doesn't help you at all, does it? :D

It'll backfire, too. Last night, we went to the Rockets' game. On the way home, we were taking two cars. The girls wanted to ride with Momma, saying "Daddy needs some alone time." Nevermind that I get a lot of alone time on my way to and from work. Nevermind that I get a lot of alone time at home after they go to sleep and I'm looking for a job or working on a project...

Have you been spying on my house?!?! That is exactly what my husband says to me about our kids..

The thing is mom and dad are different. when mom spanks and punishes it may indeed not e as scarey as when dad gets mad and punishes. Also mom is around 24/7 while dad isn't and so the dynamics of the relationship between mom and kids and dad and kids are totally different.

While some moms are indeed too soft and give in too much, some of us spank and punish more than our husbands realize and are consistant in our discipline. My husband always blames me for not being as strict with Isaac as I was with the first two and that it is for that reason that he is so difficult....But that is not the fact. He is just a different person and is 100 times more stubborn than the other two ever were. He is just different and more trying. (Actually my MIL says Isaac's ehavior is very familiar! :wink:)

Dads need to learn that kids relate differently to mom than to dad and that they will push against her more because she is there all the time. Not only does she have to be the kisser of boo boos and source of food, but also to be a disciplinarian. The kids will try to push her harder and farther.....

Well said String!!

:agree: :thumbsup:

I learned that lesson when I was the stay-at-home parent. Yeah, the kids came to me more often, and were little hell-raisers when Momma came home.

Difference was, when I tried to discipline them for their antics, Momma told me I was being the bad guy. I still believe in order.

Last night, they were not listening to directions. I asked them, "Do you remember Drill Sergeant Daddy?"
They both nodded their heads.
"Do you want him to return?"
They both shook their heads.
"Then I suggest you start listening to what Momma and I tell you."

My youngest got in some serious trouble when she came outside where Momma and I were trying to kill a water moccasin. We had told the kids to stay inside and look through the windows - if they had to watch.