Recently my wife thinks that I'm not interested in her anymore.

Fianaces, and other issues are causing me to lose my focus here, I'm seem more worried about putting out the fires, than kindling other fires of late. I'm not meaning to ignore her, but it seems that is exactly what's going on.

Can you help me by suggesting things to help me make her realize how much she does mean to me.

Flowers from out of the blue I do all the time so it's getting old hat, candy... she's worried about her figure so that won't do either.

I ask her about her day, I try to talk about things that are on her mind, but lately I've been depressed about what's going on with our fianaces, and my health which is causing my health to slip a little further and give me less energy for anything.... Latley I've been coming home talking to her for a couple minutes before she leaves for work and then sleeping until I have to go to work again, and jsut been feeling more and more ill and tired and depressed....

Sounds like you are not doing to well yourself. Maybe you should go to a doctor and TAKE HIS ADVICE. You men seem to want to do it allyourselves without any assistance from anyone. Maybe if you get your health to improving, then you will feel better, your outlook may improve, and the rest will follow. Talk to her about what you are feeling and experiencing and how it is affecting you. maybe she can help you come up with an idea about what to do about your health. I understand about the finances thing. My husband and I aren't doing very well either. I am the one who tends to worry about it in our relationship. I can get really depressed sometimes, but I have to look at the past and see that nothing really tragic has come of it so far and try to force my self not to think about what "might" be. Usually if I refuse to think about our situation, my mood improves..God has provided for us and I just hve to remind myself of that.

Praying for your health to improve...

well, for me the little things mean alot. Just go up & give her a big bear hug for no reason, like you never wanna let her go....instead of flowers, have a huge balloon boquet delivered.....make her lunch to take to work & stick a "steamy" note inside....

Just some ideas off the top of my head....

yeah, what andiesmama said too. Take care of yourself and be cuddly!

Ahhh....just give her a nice slap on the booty when she walks by. That'll make her happy! :thumbsup:

Oddly enough that does....

Can't affor to go to the doc.

Can't afford to take the scripts I already have....

When she bends over to get her undies out of the drawer,make a growling sound and say "Oh baby!!"
Then grope her from behind.This will let her know you still have eyes for her. :shakeit:

yeah....but sometimes that kinda stuff can be annoying, too...depends, ya know?

Nobody asked for your common sense comments! Let us men have our fun with your bodies! They belong to us!! Let us grope & stare at them all we want!

Why do you ladies always have to ruin the fun? geesh!! B)

You know, when hubby pinches my rear then does this :eyebrows: , that's enough to pick me up for the day! Or, if I'm bending over, he'll come up behind me and "bump" me. Well....yeah, that works, too! :D

Yeah - but his knees will hit you! That's not quite what is s'posed to happen!

ooooh. just went too far.

What he does is he bends his knees....He's not stupid, yanno. :P

Write her a poem

I used to always do that - write poetry.

I should dug up some of my old stuff. :)

I was also working on a book about our life - still a work in progress.

Foot massage....


(Hers, not yours dummy.....)

my wife enjoys the back/shoulder rup...usually ends up in a lower bakc & booty rub. :greenbike:

Works for me every time. :thumbsup:

And what's with jacks and the poems? He's getting soft on us I think. If my husband wrote me a poem, I'd pee my pants laughing before he got to the end!

Attention, we just need attention. A swat, a pinch, a bump, those are fun but as Andiesmama mentioned, the timing has to be right because sometimes those are annoying. This doesn't mean stop, because it's nice to know in the middle of the chaos of being a housekeeper and parent that your DH still wants you. ;)

You guys often suffer from communication issues. You can get so wrapped up in your problems that we have no clue what's wrong. Sometimes it's just nice if you clue us in! You never know what comfort you might get from sharing your concerns with your DW.

Finally, you better be taking care of yourself. I don't care that you think you can't afford to go to a doctor. Do you want to get so sick that Misty has to be worrying about that too?! We didn't have health insurance for a long time. You can't believe how accomodating doctors can be. Do whatever it is you need to do to take care of yourself. OK?

:hug:

While you're at work tonight, just pull out a piece of paper and write ANYTHING (doesn't have to be a poem).

Just some cute stuff... like an anagram of her name.

My wife
Is the
Sweetest thing
Thank
You Lord

Or just let her know how you're feeling, and add some subtext to let her know that she's the one that gives you the motivation to make it through the day.

Red, that was so sweet...I want you to call my husband. He needs some help in this area. Butt swatting is nice, but it can get old...and painful.

Poetry....
I'd try it I'm just worried that it would take the normal bent of my poems and just come out morbid...

Writing... Half the time my writing is what starts fights....

I haven't had time to sit down and work on any of my stories for any appreciable time since I started dating her. She gets jealous of my writing because it takes time away from her.

And she get's mad because several of my stories have characters based on friends, exes, and family members, but she see's no characters based on her - For the record most of my stories have been inthe works for 22 years now changing and evolving over time, and she hasn't given me a chance to introduce characters based on her and the kids because if I spend time writing she feels slighted.

I have a couple characters for a couple of the lines I want to base on her but just can't get them down fo rher to see...

How about just telling her how beautiful she is, what she means to you in what she would deem as loving language?

Ras -- Make better choices in your eating (eat whole foods in as natural state as possible -- if you have to read the ingredients and there are a bunch of long, foreign Latin words....stay away from those things); get enough rest; drink plenty of water; get some exercise; pray; seek God.

Take a short walk with her.

Sing her a love song, looking at her in the eyes.

Give her a big passionate kiss....a series of passionate kisses.

Give her this long, really long hug.

Get someone to take the kids, rent a movie and cuddle up on the couch. Or spend the evening talking, like you haven't talked in a while. Cuddle up on the couch for that too! I know that I could realy use some time without the kids, Kids and jobs can easily stress marriages. You just gotta make time. I just need to take my own advice too :(