My oldest has become a whiner. I can't stand the whining and complaining!!!!! I know that a spanking or two will put an end to it, but I hate spanking....I also hate making empty threats, and "go to your room" is more like a vacation from work (which is usually what she is whining about). :nono:

Any suggestions on eliminating this bad behavior that I could try before bringing out the "stick of justice" (our "paddle")?

Those doggie shock collars with the remote control....

Strap it to their ankle soon as they whine give them a couple seconds to catch themselves then BZZZZZTTTTT!!!!

Other than spanking, washing mouth out yelling etc... it's the only thing I can think of....

I mean don't jack the thing up to instafry a buffalo but it should at least tingle.....

Since I've started homeschooling, Candace (7 yrs) is starting to give me the "whining" thing like when she's tired from working. :rollseyes: I then give her a set time where she's to finish her work. If her work is not completed in the allotted time, she has it for homework. (after lunch hour) She usually gets it done RIGHT on time. She doesn't want homework! :P

For me, going to the room for whining doesn't sit well. Like you said, she whines to get out of working. That's when you stick to your guns and make sure she completes it without any distractions. Don't threaten. That just prolongs the whining. Just make sure she does what she's supposed to do.

I've got my kids on a set schedule. 45 minutes per each subject. 8:30 - 11:45 am. They know they have this set time and I've been seeing that they get more accomplished than when I just let them pick whatever they wanted whenever.

We've stopped responding when my oldest (8 1/2) whines. Simply act like she's not there. She's starting to get the message.

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That's what we do. Andie doesn't whine often, but when she does I tell her that I don't listen to whiny words, when she can say it nicely then I can listen.

I tell my daughter to go finish crying and whining in her room because I don't like listeneing to it and when she is done to come out and finish X...

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I'm no parent but when my students know what to expect if they whine-

Me to the class- "What do Whiners get?"

Class- "WORK!"

I have extra assignments that are particularly boring and aren't at all enjoyable. Typically they are a few years ahead of their reading level and involve extremely boring things. If they whine they are required to do one, I've only given one out to the whole class, most of the time it is one whiner and they have to do it and get it signed by their parents. They hate it and you make an example out of one of them and the rest learn pretty quick and a simple, "Are, are you being a whiner?" comment with a questioning face will get them to recant their statement and either ask in a more polite manner or simply let it go...

Just a thought!

I like that! :whip:

One thing my mom does when the grandkids / great grandkids start to whine about not getting their way... TURN UP THE TV....... just ignore them if they try to sneak away to do what they want.... grab them sit them down facing away frotm the TV and goes back to pretending to watch her show.....