OK....let's see here....I normally don't get teed off at hubby yet I find myself quite frustrated today. Here's why:

We bought a GameCube a while ago and the kids (especially the oldest) is quite attached to the games and it has become a problem in our household. I'm the one who has to deal with these problems because I'm the one who's home 24/7 with the kids.

A few months ago, hubby had mentioned to me about some Sega game system or whatnot that his buddy wanted to give it to him. Well, hubby asked me about and I told him no, we don't need that in the house we have enough distractions as it is. Plus, with us wanting to homeschool...the less distractions, the better it is for the kids, right?

WELL! Guess what he dragged home tonight! :nono: He brought that system home knowing full well what he had discussed already. I am not happy. And right now, so are 2 kids who he went and showed it to in the van!!

What now? Luke wants to play this, play that....yes, he's worked hard at his school work....but this is MORE distractions than we need!


:sigh: :help:

Sell one...


Either Luke or the hubby...j/k


Sell the Sega...


This coming from a 'game free home' :haha:

:wall: :lena:

If it was Ty, I'd make HIM be the bad guy, explain to Andrea that we've already got a game system and we'll sell that one, use the $$ to buy a new game for her that she can play on the one we've already got.

AFTER I did some more of this :lena: :lena:

But he got it FREE from the guy at work. Oh and his "excuse"...this doesn't use a mini cd disc, but rather cartridges.

MY thing is...BAD timing. Just started homeschooling. Want the kids to focus on their work, not what game they're gonna play next or what level they have to beat yet....this new curriculum is MUCH harder than anything they've had in PS....they'er gonna have struggles as it is!

I have told all that to hubby. Heck, I'm sure you all know how expressive I can get and he got every ounce of it tonight! :P


SOOOO........

We talked again. He says he will bring it in tonight after the kids are asleep and keep it well-hidden in the storage room. They will not see it until school has settled. I prefer the dead of winter when they will be SOO booooored. :rollseyes: I'm ok with that.

BUT, he needs to learn to say no. He says he did say no to guys at work today! So I asked WHAT he said no to. Burned copies of porn cds....:doh: Ok, well yeah...he SHOULD be saying no to that! :doh:

He made a good choice b/n taking home a game set or porn... :blink:

If you will save it, a good time to take it out is when you get snowed in and the kiddo's get house crazy... :screwy:

Hey - we have a game system. It's an Atari 2600. :)

Sega is soooo old school. I'd be surprised if you could find games for that thing.

Is that a board game?











































:gotcha:

Make the kids earn time on the games system. Form now on if they want to play they have to do X number of hours/subjects/whatever of schoo/house work before they can play. Or give them a limited amount of time they can play each month. Make up time cards and once they've used all their time that's it until next "payday".. That would teach them to spend wisely!

No, it's a bored game. You have to be really bored to play it.

Well, the kids found the game system that was SUPPOSED to be under lock and key, but hubby just didn't "get around" to locking it up. Smarty pants Luke figured out on his OWN how to set the whole thing up. Fights? A few. Shoved them outside instead. So now...I am all alone...hubby took the kids out grocery shopping...so now I get to clean this up! :hmm:

Still not happy with this...Luke gave me such a hard time this morning, during school work....:sigh: He hadn't even set it up yet.

Sounds like problems that come with a ouija board. Get the evil thing away from your house and the demons go away!

Abe's a "good bro" as my good bro sqaut likes to say.

Look.. personnaly I don't see the problem here. You "talked" bout it... you said no, he said yes. An then he decided that yes was a good answer. Where's the problem? The device isn't the problem, it jes means new ground rules havta be maintained an personnlay I think your usin home schoolin as an excuse here. So what? the device isn't goin to stop you from home schoolin er anythin else. If it becomes a distraction, set up a schedule. What I mean is say from 8 to 12 you do school work, then lunch, then some play time er whatever, an between 3:45 an 4 they git to play.

I don't really see this as that big a deal, it was free, it's really not that big a deal in my opinion. Sell the other one if you don't use it er sumthin, find a compromise, personnaly I don't think you can be mad that he said yes you said no an he went wit yes. Find the common ground, that particular system is only in your room, er the only time it's allowed to be played is 15 mins a day etc etc, find a compromise, don't jes be pissy wit the MAN who ascerted his authority an brought the thin home. all this women... bein fussy cause the man has a pair... sheesh some of you folks are jes whacked!

:lol:

And Sarah will let you in the house when you get home? :rolf:

See there? sheesh... that WOman.. ain't got a choice in the matter anyways, that's MY house, I bought it, I pay for it, I fix it. An er only contribution is to call me ever other day an say, I broke this er that..... I have such a list at the moment.

Actually... the battle rages as it is.. you kow she got mad at me an dilibertely fried my home pc right? That's why I've gotten in gear on upgradin bout 5 years sooner then I wanted to.... see I finally figured it out, er power supply fan quit, but it started workin agin, I told er jes to leave a box fan on it for a lil while til I could fix it. Well... lo an behold it quit agin, but then... all of a sudden wit no warnin an for no reason my puter dies... convienet isn't it? So she takes my power supply for er puter..... so now I have a burned up mother board, an a dead power supply... she's jes been launchin one attack after the other... but it matters not... I have a secret weapon.... between my legs hehehe she'll eventually git tired of playin silly games an then she'll sink ersef ;)

This is NOT about MY decision over HIS decision. WE had an agreement NOT to get any more games any time soon. He BROKE our agreement. He KNEW he broke our agreement when he did this. So as of right now, I have a screaming kid who ALL he wants is games, games, games. I don't expect anyone here (except maybe Amy who has special needs child) to understand exactly what has taken place in this house since MORE games have made their appearance in this house. Abe barely knows because he's not HERE during the day/week. Sure...it's no big deal to you guys, because you don't know!

So don't go saying it's a "woman thing" because it is not. Abe and I work very hard as TEAM/parents and we always make plenty of agreements that we both agree with and what is best for our kids. This is totally not about my "authority" over him. As far as we're concerned, we're equals.

Right now, all games (except computer games) are under lock and key.
Yes, we are working on some sort of arrangement for the kids.

Get two Identical boxes.

Pack up the came systems in one of the boxes Mark it so it's Identifiable. Have kids do something that distracts them hide actual box mark empty box like it's the real one make sure it has weight to it.

Inform kids thatif they do as they are told that thye can play the game, if they do not do as they are told, or try to open the box that the box gets set out inthe burn pile....

if they actually try to get inthe box, burn the empty box they think game system is gone and you can now ebay the game system and buy something for the family that doesnt' promote as many fights and headaches as the game systems.

Yeah........so there............ :cheeky:

Lena, I totally can't understand exactly what you're dealing with BUT I know where you're coming from.

I agree that it's not a "submission" thing (which I think A2J was trying to stir the pot a bit, eh?)........from your initial post it sounded to me like you two had reached an agreement about NOT getting the new system. He brought it home anyways. And that's when the :poop: hit the fan.

I'm sorry you're having to deal with this on TOP of trying to get your HS situation up and running............ :hug:

That sounds like a great idea! I like it. :nod:

Thanks, Deb. :hug:

Yeah, today hasn't been such a good day... :faint:

I excel at evil.....

it's a gift.....

:agree:

Well folks can jes bend over an kiss my rosey white lil backside... for starters... Lena, define SOON. You said ya'll had an agreement not to do it anytime SOON. So what SOON are you talkin bout? I'm not actually tryin to defend Abe in this at all. An no blondy... I wasn't talkin anythin at all bout submission. That hadn't anythin to do wit it. But I've seen it before, one person believes such an such is settled on such an such, but then the other ones time frame er ideas differed slightly an then all of a sudden you've got pissed off spouses for some reason that is jes silly.

Personnaly, if Sarah an I had an agreement like that wit the "any time soon" clause thrown in I would want a date. That way I would know I wouldn't be in trouble in the first place. For Abe, I don't see that he did anythin wrong per-se, I think he should have been more discrete wit it, hid it away, left it in the car til the kids was sleepin an then hashed it out wit you, but I don't think I'd hold em to an agreement if it was built on the clause of "anytime soon" witout havin first defined what soon meant.

:umno: :P

I totally understand what you're saying about broken agreements.. My husband has pulled that crap on me before--you remember the dog? Seems when husbands bring in things that will affect the wife's every minute throughout the day without approval of the wife, the wife has to deal with the hell it causes while hubby dear leaves and goes to work carefree and happy...that don't make for good times..

Sorry you're having to deal with this....:hug:

Here in lies what is aggravatin me bout all of this. The folks.. partiuclarly women folk, in this thread are treatin this as if it was a violation of trust, a breach of confedence, a wilful breakage of an agreement..... now look, I think he could have handled it a bit better then jes lettin the kids see the thin etc, but I haven't seen anythin here that would say he's done any of the other thins. I'm still curious bout the word SOON. That's an open ended clause an I have seen people use em.. my folks for example, use a term like that an then beat me over the head wit it for years... oh an even still currently. When I bought my second pickup I had talked to em bout it for a few months an they kept usin terms like soon, er some time in the furture.. stupid stuff like that, so one day I went out, bought my pick up came home an have had to tolerate crap from em ever since. Doesn't matter that I bought the thin wit my own money etc an I told em, you said you didn't have a problem wit it, jes wait a "lil while" then the next time I asked, it was "soon" then some time in the future. Well I got tired of waitin an did it anyways on MY soon, MY some time in the future, etc etc.

I haven't thus far seen anythin that would tell me that Abe violated your trust, that he broke a sacrad agreement er anythin else. Perhaps he was a lil insensitve, perhaps he should have consulted you a bit more bout it, er agreed to a hidein of the thin for a while, an I think he shouldn't have let the kids see it before ya'll could discuss it. But nuthin here places him in anymore hot water then jes not havin sense enough not to let the kids see it first.

It actually aggravtes me to see folks actin like this. Unless I'm missin the point altogeather here an this is jes a bash Abe thread, one persons way an that's it type thin.

Ugh...according to the OP, there was NEVER an agreement to bring it home. Abe asked about it, honey said no. She didn't say "no not right now" or "maybe in a few weeks" she said no. Abe didn't fight about it (according to the OP) and yet he still brought it home...

If DH and I discuss purchasing something and one of us isn't in agreement with it, we'll discuss it at a later time BEFORE the other person purchases/gets it etc.

DH nor I have done something like this :dunno:

ugh your sef!

Perhaps Lena jes hasn't explained ersef very well bout this, which I'm not sayin is a bad thin, but I'm havin a hard time lookin at it the same way alot of other folks are. Perhaps their agreement didn't include the "soon" clause an she was jes respondin wit that cause I ticked er off er sumthin I donno. But the way folks are talkin the poor boy might as well run out an slept wit someone er sumthin. I am not tryin to make light of the matter, it obviously matters to Lena, but does it cross the line of a broken trust??

I'm gonna UGH myself one more time here. :cheeky:

This topic is done with. Hubby & I are settled with the whole thing so there is nothing to explain here. I'm not gonna keep dragging this out. So, there's no more "problem" here. We're past it.

Thanks everyone! :wave: