How do you literally deal wit this literal bullshit??????

Your spouse gits mad at you for the EXACT same thin they are doin er have done!!!

WHY is it good for the goose but an oh so terrible thin for the gander??? How can one person be in trouble for it one time but then the other person is innocent of ever charge the next time????

It makes NO sense!!!

How can you git your spouse to see it from your perspective? I don't mean show them by doin the same thin jes to piss everbody off, I mean give me some ways that I could make Sarah see from my perspective that the same damn thin I do that hurts er, she does an it hurts me! I can not fathom ANYTHIN ever workin so long as there is a double standard in place!

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TELL her!!

Uh, I'm stumped. :dunno:

Tell her...like AM said. Maybe she doesn't know she's doing it.
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I'll drink the fifth on this one....

I mean plead... yeah that's it plead.....

I'm guilty of doing this to Misty, and she's guilty of doing it back to me on different matters....


Main thing is bring it to their attention to make sure they realize it's happening....

Then figure out if it's really that big a deal inthe first place (most of the BS that Misty and I pull back and forth on each other not realizing it really isn't that big a deal it's more little annoying things...)

Well A2J, I'll have no idea what you're talking about without and example story.

I wrote this when I was literally beside mysef, but the issue remains. Here's a lil story of a typical problem.

It's ok for Sarah to contridict me, but it isn't ok for me to do so to er. I can say that she is actin, sayin er doin sumthin an she responds wit "No". Doesn't matter that I jes said it was such an such er I felt such an such, the answer is always "No". It's said in a tone er type of way that sends me over the edge, as if I was soooo stupid I couldn't possibly know what I'm thinkin er feelin. She says she doesn't do it like that, which jes esculates everthin because, it's another contridiction, now I'm so stupid I don't even know what er words are makin me feel like etc etc.

You can flip that around an she'll say sumthin is one way er the other an I'll say "No" an then.... BOOM world war three.

We've both done the same thin, but it's ok for one an not the other? I literally jes explode when I'm told no like I'm an idiot. I don't know how to git er to understand that we are both doin the same thin to one another but the difference is, I'm expected to take it an remain an idiot an if I rebutt er any then the world is over wit.

Anymore I jes don't handle it well at all, if we're arguin over sumthin an she starts the "No" thin, I jes lose it, I lost that day when I wrote this thread, at the same time I had another thread askin for ways to let off the pressure so I didn't explode. I jes have real issues wit folks who think what is good for the goose is not also good for the gander, really drives me nuts.

Bring it to her attention. Maybe she doesn't realize she's doing it... :dunno:

Oyi... that's a been there done that, honestly I have done everhtin I could possibly think of, I even asked er how I should deal wit it, er how she wanted me to let er know. We tried that one to, she ended up in tears few weeks back at bout midnight when I was in OR. I'm at a loss, an I think... I know this will sound a lil bad, but I think if she could realize that when stress is high an I'm on the verge of explodin, if she could bite er tongue an not say that dreaded "No" word as if I was an idiot then thins would be better. It's bad to say that, because that's expectin Sarah to take the fall, er havta deal wit me sayin sumthin an not bein able to respond. I don't want a wife that is afraid to say sumthin er nother. But we really do need to find away round the way I preceive er words an the way she thinks she's sayin em.

That's really it, I FEEL like she's treatin me like an idiot, she swears she's not, yet then I feel like she's sayin I'm an idiot because I couldn't even tell how er words sounded. It jes builds like that.