All day today Kat has been having "melt downs" when I leave the room saying that she's scared. She's even doing irrational things like earlier today I was on the phone and she knocked down the baby gate and carried Liam into the bedroom where I was on the phone. Carrying Liam is something she knows she's not allowed to do but she was wanting to get out of the living room fast so she did it anyway. She's been saying that she doesn't want to live in our house any more and that she's had some bad dreams but doesn't really remember them. The problem has gotten big enough that she's willing to disobey me and get in trouble for not doing something if it means being in a different room from me. I don't know whether I should be punishing her or not and I don't want to be uncompassionate but I don't know what to do and can't always be in the same room as her. Any ideas?

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Quit letting her watch those "Amityville" movies for starters...

Is there a quiet time when you could sit down and talk with her about what is going on in her head?

Questions like

"What do you think is going to happen when Mum is not in the room with you?

Maybe even ask what you could both do to help her feel better. maybe pray together, then agree to pop your head in every 5mins while she gets secure again

Are there any other changes in her behaviour? If there is a cluster of behaviours it could indicate something specific has happened that affects her security.
Pray and ask God for discernment, to show you what it is about.

I will also pray for YOU 'cos I know how frustrating it can be when they just won't let you be and need you every minute. Been there, done that. It's hard.

Well that's it off the top of my head.

Bless you :pray:

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You know my guess:

Could it be that she enjoyed you guys being w/ A2J for a few weeks and got used to all the family time together and now it's no longer there? :hug:

Go into her room at night with a werewolf mask on and scream. Then when she sees you take off the mask, she'll know her momma is just psychotic and there are no real monsters to be afraid of.

Seriously - it's a phase all kids go through. No matter what you do, she'll still be afraid of something. I say take action when she violates the rules (such as carrying Liam), but otherwise simply make her face her fear. Teach her how irrational the fear is - and use five-year-old words, not grown-up words.

When did the dreams start?

Are these dreams while she's awake or asleep?

She have issue at night when she should be sleeping or just during the day?

If something is scaring her to the point where she's willing to take punishment to avoid facing it alone it should be looked into.

Same thing happen when Louis is home or is she fine then?

Any recent Horror movies on the list of things she's seen or seen commercials for?

Have her describe exactly what she's fearing, what she's feeling, is it a presence, just a feeling, like she's being watched, hearing things, smelling things, physical sensation?

She might be epileptic / prone to migraines and she might be getting her first auras / precursors or noticing them for the first time. She might be sensing something else, i hate to sound all hippy and new age about it but until she can communicate to you "what" is freaking her out thereisn't a lot you can do to help her. If she says there is apresence have her describe it in as complete detail as she can, male female, emotional state, can she see it or just feel it.

You might want to get her a cross she can carry with her, and tell her that when she starts to get scared to grab the cross, imagine a bright white light all around her and remember that bright white light is God's love and while that's surrounding her nothing can hurt her, and then have ehr talk to God about her fears and ask God to chase the bad feeling away.


Couple things off the top of my head....

EDIT: Sorry Figured I'd make this more legible for A2J since it's about his fam...