In the past you FHLers have been less then helpful in regards to issues *I* have had in my relationship wit Sarah, always takin er side an leavin me hung out to dry so's to speak... well THIS TIME ya'll MUST agree wit me an put an end to the foolish talk that Sarah has been talkin bout lately.

As most if not all of you know, I was not happy bout Liam, an while it's not anybodies fault but ours the timein was bad etc etc, been there done all that. An of course THAT does not mean I don't love my son er anythin of that like... oh!

btw dear Lynnypoo, this thread is NOT a complaint bout my wife, nor lil miss lenagerie is this me airin dirty laundry.. jes wanna be clear bout that is all... I know how some of you gals like to tap dance on my head bout the like.

No this thread is an effort to git Sarah to drop a silly idea shes come up wit, an after a very ill timed comment by er the other night right in the frickin MIDDLE of a finishin off act.... I membered I wanted to git ya'lls help in persaudin er to drop this idea.

Sarahs been talkin lately bout gittin ersef fixed, an *I believe* she's usin the excuse that she feels like she cain't handle anymore kids. I personnaly think it's a cop out, but I could be wrong. I've told er it would be a bad idea, not only do I believe for a minute that she actually does feel as though shes done havin kids, I believe it is more expensive then the male casteration, I believe it screws up the hormones, an one of er complaints while on the pill was er hormones fowled up, low libido, inconsistant bodily fluids etc etc, so I think she'd agin have problems along those lines anyway and it'd be more permanat then jes takin a pill. She's young, an the chances are really good that I'll die before she would, at least that had better be the way it goes, an if it's sooner then later then she might want children wit someone else, which is realitively ok wit me.

I don't think fixin ersef is the way to go, espiceally if this is some sort of warped sense of loyailty er the like. No I didn't want Liam, only because of the time he came, but it's not like I didn't want more kids after Kat. So I'm not even sure that I am done havin children yet.

Besides, accordin to cowboy logic, if'n I were to be the one that got fixed it'd give me a permit to bang anythin an everthin thats got a hole :thumbsup:

least.... hmmm.... I thought thats what I read.......

Eh, this is something you both have to pray about....it's a pretty big step.

As for the whole hormone thing, unless Sarah gets her ovaries removed the whole hormanal thing will stay the same. Normally they just do the laproscopic tube-tie thing, leave the ovaries in, so she'll still ovulate & all that, it's just the little "bridge" for the eggs won't be there!

But yes, it's more expensive, she's got a hospital stay or at least outpatient in the hospital, I think guys get snipped in the doc's office.......right?? :dunno:

Don't discount her feelings BUT you both need to be open and honest with each other about how you feel about it AND the reasons for it.

We've decided to just hang in there until I hit menopause (yeah, I know, it's right around the corner..... :P ), we use condoms or I use the sponge, just to switch it up a little bit.

Read up on Post Tubal Ligation Syndrome. Seems to me that no matter what a woman does to control or eliminate her fertility there are ALWAYS bad side effects. :nono: If I could sterilize, I would... But I've got issues in my marriage and in my self in gemneral that make me hate my fertility so I'm not really a good one to ask about tyhese things.... :)

In my own research I learned about the Post Tubal Ligation syndrome crap... Go google it..

Ok.
If either one of you would have a procedure done, I'd suggest having the male get snipped. Just in case in the future you decide to have more kids you could try to get it reversed etc.
If Sarah says she can't handle another child...BELIEVE HER. DH says he can't handle another child and well...I believe him and that's why I don't keep asking him about another :D
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Welll, speaking from my own experience.........wait!! Liam is not even a year old yet. Candace was 4 months old when hubby went to the doc. That was about 7 years ago. I could've easily had another baby had he not been snipped and there's been days where I'd LOVE to have another baby (preferably a girl for Candace :P) But....what's done is done. Do your research, pray and between the 2 of you, decide what would be best.

Umm, I just got fixed, so I might not be the best person to ask.

Bout the only thing I can say that won't sound like hippy crap talk is pray, both of you pray long and hard, adn see what God tells you guys..... eh that still sounds like hippy crap.....

We only tap dance on your head to get your attention sweetie! Because you can be so damn unreasonable!

OK, that said...this is a HUGE decision. I agree with you that I have heard from friends who've had their tubes tied that it does mess with their hormones. That's why we decided Tommy would do his part and get snipped instead. Plus, it's less invasive, less dangerous, and cheaper.

Now, logic aside, you need to consider emotion right now. Sarah is at a difficult time in parenting. She's on her own most of the time raising two kids with very different needs. Kat is pretty self-sufficient and Liam needs Sarah for everything. It's hard to think clearly now, let alone make a life-changing decision like a tubal ligation at a time like this.

PLUS, you both MUST BE IN AGREEMENT about this. You have to measure the pros and cons. Pray about it. Fast if you can Sarah. I know you don't take making this decision lightly and I know you're already seeking God on this.

Keep praying.