Kat is being a punk lately so we were thinking about trying a new discipline technique. The one where you fill a jar with tokens and add them for good behavior and take them away for bad. We need ideas for rewards for when she gets the required amount of tokens. We didn't want to make toys a reward. There's also nothing to do in the local area so going and doing something fun is not much of an option either. So, any ideas?

If she's bad, she has to pick cotton or watermelons or grapefruit or lettuce or...

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A SAVINGS BOND would be VERY exciting.




Can't believe you said "no toys". Kids LIVE for those things.

How about a day when SHE can be mommy and order you around? You have to do everything she says?

OR "Queen for a day"....she can eat whatever she wants for meals, wear whatever she wants, dictates what she wants to do for fun....

I'll think about it and come back with more.....

Me, I'm the queen of bribery.....erm, I mean "rewards"...... :rollseyes:

You're along the right lines. I don't know what those guys are on about up there :rollseyes:

We're plum outta space around here to put any more toys.

As a parent you are to feed, clothe, and shelter your child. Those are all the requirements. Anything else is a reward- t.v., clothes they like, food they like, free time, sunlight, covers for their bed, showers, shampoo, toothbrush, the ability to speak in public, the ablility to walk around the house (they can crawl), indoor plumbing (go pee outside), etc. Rewards are just something they earn. Make 'em earn everything!

:lol: You're not a parent are you? :lol:

I agree with you in principle. That's why it's almost 6pm and my daughter hasn't eaten since breakfast and is about to miss dinner because she is refusing to do her school work. She has not been able to get up from her chair except to use the bathroom for the last several hours. You would think that she would have gotten the message by now that her school work is not negotiable...

Kids....gotta love 'em :lol:

:lol: Stubborn little gal you got there.....sounds kinda like mine.... :blink:

I'd be really afraid to get 'em together!! :D

No I'm not yet a parent but I do run a classroom with 30 10-11 year olds. I can't beat them. I can't restrict them. Yet I still manage to keep them in check. If Mr. Young ain't smilin' ain't nobody smilin'! I do use a similar method with my students. You have to earn everything. I have kids who can't use the restroom during class- they have to wait until recess or after school. Make it a desirable thing to do the work- "oh, don't want to do your homework? Well let's get you prepped for your future job of pain-staking hard labor. Get outside and weed the yard, clean the dog yard, and mow the lawn. School work is sounding pretty good now, huh?"

In my classroom you throw a piece of paper in the garbage instead of placing it there- the first time you clean my entire floor after school. The second time we all clean our desks, I clean out my cupboards and you clean the floor, separate for recycling and call your parents to come pick you up because you missed the bus.

Being a relatively big guy in an elementary school I think my kids fear that I'll actually physically hurt them- I'd never do it but I think they think I might... I won't tell them otherwise!

I use that with my kiddo's. They fill a jar with marbles - takes a while to fill.
I take them to Target and they pick something out. Either GUM, ICE CREAM, BOOKS, or a TOY. I figure I NEED to get something they REALLY REALLY want but I do put a price limit on it. We also have done the Baskin Robbins trip etc.

Let her make cookies or cupcakes and frost 'em!

I've tried this one. Apparently it's not enough of an incentive to her.

I'm tellin' ya - rent her out to local farmers. A couple of hours picking fruit should change her mind...

Why not leave it open to her? Let her pick her reward....or do you think she'd choose something that's over the top?

I think she'd probably pick something over the top. She has quite the imagination. Just last night she was asking for a new house and I told her those were expensive. She says, "Well, I've got a lot of money in my bottle (her piggy bank) so that can pay for it!"

Why not have a list of items she wants (toys included-sorry) and have a 'goodie bucket' in the house. You can get the items (the ones you can afford) and show her - when your jar is full of marbles (or whatever you're using) you can pick a prize from here.
This way you can control how much you spend but still get some items she wants.
Idea from Lisa Whelchel - "Creative Correction"...Great book by the way!

Hey - I like that. And, when the kids are bad, you can put some of their existing toys in there as punishment. Then they have to 'earn' them back. :amen:

That EXACTLY what she writes about in her book.
Also - she takes away any toys left on the floor after the kids have 'cleaned up' their room. They then have to 'buy' them back. She's a tough cookie. :whistle:

Sounds like my kinda woman. That's one thing I really like about my wife. She's tough that way!

I like GM's idea.....kinda like the "treasure box" they do at Andie's school. Turn in so many homework pages and you get to pick a treasure.

You could buy some little books at the dollar store, pack of gum, lip gloss, finger paints, etc.....

Here's an example. We have a small dessert after lunch every day. It's usually just a cookie or a piece of candy - nothing big.

Today, my youngest finished her meal and asked for dessert. I told her she would get it when I was done with my meal. When I finished, I told the girls to get their shoes and socks on so we could go to a homeschool play practice. YD starts throwing a screaming temper tantrum because I promised her a cookie. OD put on her shoes and socks without saying anything, and got a cookie. YD doesn't get any dessert for the rest of the day. Heck - for the rest of eternity as far as I'm concerned.

She inherited her mother's stubborn streak.

I'll have to check that one out...

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Wife has that book....says it's pretty good.

Umm required amount of tokens = Party for her and her friends? Pizza Cake... Sleep over?