I've heard the term "Porn Addiction" used SO often that it makes me wonder if people are all talking about the same thing.

And I usually start thinking about it after reading a post on the topic (usually from a hurt wife) on the other forum.

Conventionally, I understand it to mean that a guy is looking at the stuff and can't bring himself to stop. (Bold used to emphasize the part that I consider as making it into an addiction).

However, in other cases, I'll see the word "Addiction" get thrown in after a wife finds a picture of a naked woman in his email or something.

I try to think of the word in relative terms... like when you speak of someone who has a Drug Addiction, or Alcohol Addiction, or Nicotine Addiction...

Does the word Addiction just naturally follow after the word Porn? Or do some people just call it an addiction to make it out to be an "end of the world" problem when they walk in on their spouse watching a dirty flick on tv?

I think sometimes "addiction" gets thrown in there as like an all-encompassing term, you know?

I don't consider it an addiction unless it's something that's running and/or RUINing your life. Now, that's not to say that porn every now & then is ok...and I think everyone has slightly differing examples of porn.

I may be a little more liberal in that it doesn't bother me for my DH to look at a Victoria's Secret catalog, or go to Hooter's ( :eyebrows: )...I don't consider that porn and even if I did, I would hesitate to call it an "addiction" unless it was something that he continually did.

I do think that sometimes the "addiction" is tacked on to make the problem sound more serious than it might be....IMO

I have to agree -- I think the term Addiction is used to take the guilt away from the person with the problem. After all, they can easily use that as an excuse if they fall. In today's world, you are not responsible for your actions. It's the fault of the publishers that put the porn in front of you.

If our world is ever to heal, people need to start accepting responsibility for their own actions. Stop the lawsuits (McDonald's didn't tell me the :coffee: would be hot!) and accept responsibility for your own actions. I slipped on some produce at Wal-Mart. I kept right on going. I really didn't want anybody to know that I was stupid enough to not watch where I was going. Kinda like ladies insisting men put the seat down so their butt doesn't get wet -- it ain't my fault you weren't paying attention!

I do believe there are addictions (including this forum!) in every facet of life that people simply need to learn to control. It's easy to find something you like and spend a great deal of time doing it at the expense of other things in life. True addiction, however, requires intervention to control. In most addiction cases, the addict does not realize that what they are doing is wrong. They see drugs, alcohol, porn, etc. as a way to relieve stress. They will use these as an outlet rather than directing that energy to something more healthy.

I'm carrying on again. Sorry...

Yeah....especially this forum. It is addictive. I was also addicted (I'm not using this term lightly) to another forum. As in "can't seem to stop" and "priorities are really backwards"....intervention by omitting said addiction is a way to stop the addiction. Probably the best way.

But as per OP if a wife finds a pic of a naked lady...that's not an "addiction". The word addiction does not apply UNLESS it has been a continuous, non-stop course.

It's too bad folks use the word unnecessarily to make it sound oh so bad. They all need just a :lena: upside the head! ;)

Not sure there is much I can add to what has been said.

Addiction - running your life - feel like you can't stop - Need the "buzz"

Finding a single picture - no proof it's an addiction - but proof one could be starting. Kinda like finding a joint in your kids school bag - doesn't mean the kid is doin' pot...but....

I think it's interesting that Christians focus so exclusively on porn. An addiction to pornography falls under the heading of sexual addiction, which can take many forms. While porn can be very destructive to a marriage, I think other forms of sexual addiction are more serious because they generally end up hurting other people.
That said, perhaps porn can lead to the more destructive forms.

Partly true, but porn does hurt others. Many women are held against their will so their bodies can be used this way. This is very common, because sex is such a lucrative business.

And, the funny thing is that porn is, perhaps, the most respectable of all the sexual sins. After all, you aren't actually doing the act, just thinking about it. But our LORD said if you think about doing it, it's just as bad as doing it. As one thinks in their heart...

Churches don't want to address affairs (especially among members), prostitution or other sexual sin because it's somewhat taboo. After all, if preachers do it (Jim Bakker), can we actually say something about it? Wouldn't that make us hypocrites? That would be like saying I can't condemn alcohol (or prostitution) because I used to partake quite heavily (of both). But that man was crucified with Christ and lives no more.

XXXChurch

Check them out to get a view of what porn does. Check out their stats page. Tell me this junk isn't addictive!

Be Broken Ministries

Them too.

I haven't shared this on CF,but there have been a few[maybe 2 or 3] times I've seen dh looking at porn. His explanation one time was, it was bc the site he visits has porn sites offered, or someone will have porn in their sig or something. The other time I confronted him, he didn't deny it. I was hurt bc I was pretty far along in my pgy, but looking back now, I believe it was just a spur of the moment thing. He definitley doesn't have an addiction as far as I can tell. I would be quite surprised to hear of any man..married or single...christian or non...who hasn't looked since being saved or married!

Sadly i is a BIG issue.