I just need to vent. I've been talking to God about this all morning, but I'm not getting anywhere. I'm just...pissed!

Here's the deal:
My friend Deb's husband Andy is as coach for the NY Giants. They asked us to pick a game to go to with them this year. We picked this Sunday's game against Tampa Bay. So I called her last week to find out about his weekend, to ge the tickets and she tells me we might have an extra ticket. So I say, awesome, we'll invite Tommy's friend Bobby (he's actually both our friends. I've known him since we were 9 or 10 years old). Deb says to me, find out if he's available, but just so you know, pastor asked me to give him tickets for this weekend for his daughter and her husband.

Deb has 4 tickets. This means, if she can get the extra ticket - Rebecca and Pablo (Pastor's daughter and SIL) are going with us. If she can't, we'll have an odd number, and Bobby can go.

Deb called this morning, she got the extra ticket so Rebecca and Pablo are going. Now Tommy and I talked about it earlier in the week and we both felt bad that Bobby was so psyched (He's a HUGE Giants fan) and we didn't want to let him down. Tommy said, I'll give him my ticket and you go with him. Yeah, right. I know his wife wouldn't be happy about that!! So I said, forget it, you can give him my ticket.

So now I'm bummed, really bummed. I want to go!!

This is what I know:
1. this is a HUGE opportunity to bless Bobby.
2. I'm feeling selfish.
3. I don't care that I feel selfish or that we can bless Bobby - I WANT TO GO!!

So that's it. My husband is going to call me in like 10 minutes to tell me he feels crappy about the whole thing, and I have to pretend I'm ok. But I'm not.

:bonk:

It's hard to be gracious when you're on the losing end.

I'd have to agree with Tommy - I don't think I'd be too keen on my wife going to a game with a friend of mine, especially after a few discussions on this board :eek:

Deep down at the very roots, yeah it's a little tiny bit of selfishness, but moreover I think you're responding how any of us would feel - disappointment.

I also agree that, given what you've told us, this is the right thing to do. Then again, I'm not a huge sports fan (except Astros)...

OK, so my husband just called. Now he's actually pissed at me for being upset about this. Guess I should have lied to him, and told him I was ok with it.

And he offered to give me his ticket again, so I could go with Bob. Like I want to go to a football game with someone else's husband.

I need to get over this. What's done is done.

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all this fuss over a football game....


btw, I would NEVER do this...

Ditto here.

Football sucks.

:wall: I just typed a big entry & LOST IT!!!!!


In a nutshell....you're feelings, ALL of them, are valid. Tommy should NOT be mad because you're disappointed, geez....

For what it's worth, IMHO you're doing the right thing by giving your ticket to Bobby, and remember, sister, what goes around comes around! :hug:

Squatbro - yer goin' ta HELL for lyin'! :rolf:

Lynn, Tommy sounds a lot like me. If my wife generously gives to me but still feels disappointed about her loss, then I want to fix it for her. Nevermind that she tried to fix it for me.

Then she reminds me of the times I've done the same for her. Especially when it involves things that we will not be able to recoup - like our anniversary/birthday weekend that we wound up spending at home 'cuz that's what she wanted.

So, if applicable, remind Tommy that you're doing for him that he's done for you. Yeah, it sucks that you can't go to the game, but you know how important it is for him and his friend to go. It's a sacrifice you're willing to make for his sake. And, if he's done it for you, he'll remember and likely thank you with something better than tickets to a football game. :eyebrows:

He's not lying.... he prolly has no feelings for the Giants whatsoever.....

Now put his team in there.... then we see Squat in action.....

Man, did God convict me over this yesterday.

All my whining, and complaining...

We've been talking about how many people have blessed us over the last few years, and how we really want to bless others. So here I am, asking God to show us how we can bless other people (of course, I'm thinking how I want to do it) and God gives us this amazing, once in a lifetime opportunity to bless someone and I'm going to piss and moan about it?! Hello!!!

So this conviction occured somewhere between my conversation with Tommy during his commute home and him arriving home. He wasn't mad at me when he got home and then I explained how God had been dealing with me. We both agreed, again, it was the BEST thing to do. And Bobby just about peed his pants when Tommy told him he was going. So it's all worth it.

Thanks you guys...except for Squat. punk.

I'm glad you found your peace. :amen:

Plus you might want to talk to a doctor about that bug problem... that can't be sanitary or healthy..... ;P B) :cool: :ph43r: :bolt:

:rolf:

Good to hear you found your "peace" of bug butt! Hope it didn't hurt too much! :D

There was an episode of The Fairly Odd Parents where the wicked babysitter, Vickie, turned sweet and kind after they showed a bug coming out of her pants leg. The bug moved from person to person, making them mean and rotten. It was pretty funny trying to explain that to my daughter.