Well, not really school....full-blown separation anxiety has set in with Andie & it's SO FRUSTRATING!! :wall: Because I know she can have fun & be happy there....all last week was great for her!! But for some reason this week she's decided that school is the last place on earth she wants to be.... :rollseyes: Her school even had to call me today because she'd been crying from the second I dropped her off this morning until they called me, like 45 min later....

Her school is great, teachers too....they're letting me "volunteer" tomorrow morning for a couple hours to get her settled in for the day...but I KNOW my daughter is capable of handling it, for some reason she's got it in her mind NOT to...she's stubborn, just like her daddy.... B)

Ah well, this too shall pass....but for now.... :wall: :tease:

oh man....sorry to hear that. it's rough on you, her, AND the teacher. bummer! but you are right, it WILL pass. when i teach preschool, i always tell the mothers that teachers are trained to deal with these types of issues. if they weren't expecting it, then they weren't prepared to become a teacher!! so many kids do this. they start out on a good run...because they think it's fun....but at some point feel like they have had enough because they start to realize that they are starting a new adjustment in their schedule/life. it's a scary thing for them, but it doesn't take time for them to get past it. hang in there!! keep encouraging her and telling her how big she is for going to school. reward her on her good days. not all rewards have to be monitary, words are good too :) praise, praise, praise....don't let her know that you are frustrated. she will only keep at it because it will become a test for her. "how far can i push mommy until she decides i don't have to go at all anymore?" be consistant, firm, and loving....as you already know! :hug: hang in there girlie!

:( I know it...but I hate seeing my baby so unhappy...I DO plan on rewarding the good days....even today, if the rest of the morning went well, we'll do lunch somewhere....

So....you preschool teacher, you.... B) ....on her not-so-good days, how do I react to THOSE? Just sympathize with her, etc? Remind her AGAIN that mommy will always come back to get her? :dunno: Then on her good days make a HUGE deal out of it?

we tell our mom's to not even acknowledge the bad day. act as if nothing happened. when the child realizes (and they do pretty quick!) that mommy isn't going to "ooo and aaahhh" them for making everyone's life miserable, then they will start focusing on the days that mommy DOES notice.

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if she is crying and you come get her after a bad day, just smile at the teacher and say thanks .... or whatever you normally say. then, as you approach her, just simply say, "how was your day?" and let her respond. if it's a mouth full of crying and sobbing, then you just say "that's too bad. it will be fun if you choose to let it be fun." ---or something like that. NEVER say sorry. you have NOTHING to apologize to her for. it's all about manipulation and you need to show her that it is HER choice to enjoy HER day there. i know you will feel like you are being harsh, but you are actually training her and helping her more than most people!! and believe me, the teacher will appreciate you for it!!! also, you can (not right then, but sometime during the day) remind her that when she chooses to cry and scream the whole time, the teacher is not able to do their job and it makes the teacher sad. and the kids can't HEAR the teacher if they are crying loudly.....blah blah blah..... that will help them become aware of the feelings of those AROUND them.

ok....i'm not an expert, by any means, but i use this method a lot and have seen it work over and over. whether it's a nursery, grocery store, school, etc. i encourage you to just try it for about two weeks. if it doesn't get any better....then i'm not sure what to tell ya :dunno:

hmmmm....I was on the right track even before I read what you wrote.

Thanks for the tips, I'm gonna try them out...wish me luck!! B)

:thumbsup: i'm sure you'll do fine with it. you are a very sincere mother who cares about the development of your child......unlike some, unfortunately, that i have seen! :blink:

my second child, Rylan, (who is our baby boy) just started first grade today. as i was driving him there, he says, "mom, i wish you were going to be my teacher." i said, "yeah, that would be fun, huh?" then a little silence....

then he said, "i know that i'm gonna be pooped outta my britches when i come home from first grade. i might have to snuggle with you on the couch when i come home cuz i'll be so tired."

i said, "rylan, mommy would LOVE that. i'll be waiting on the couch for you."

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my baby boy is growing up so fast!! he is going ALL DAY now...... :cry: i know it's a good thing....but i'm having a "mommy moment".

yeah, I've had a couple of those today....second-guessing the whole school thing, which is crazy I know....

But we've had some good quality time today & I used the "school is fun if you make it fun" line on her.... :thumbsup:

i was second guessing the whole school thing too!! i homeschooled my oldest for preschool and half of kindergarten. but then we moved and i know all the teachers here, most of which go to our church, so i thought it would be fine. and it's been good so far....just not on days like today--- but i'm sure it'll be good most of the time. sometimes i do feel guilty though....for wanting to teach everyone else's kids and not my own....but i realize that God has not called me to teach my own children. i feel that without a doubt! i think it would be a BAD idea....we'd ALL go nutso!!lol :tease:

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Get that little bro an axe and a cord of wood to chop.....none of this "snuggle with momma" junk.

No Squat we let the youngens get that stuff out of their system early so when they're in second grade we can have them pull the plow with their teeth.... Let the weakness (J/K ladies) out now so the kid will grow up big and strong and like manly things like men in too tight pants groping each other on Sunday afternoon... (that is what football is right?) and killing animals and cooking them on a grill.....


**the preceeding post was meant in jest no offense is meant to anyone, especailly the men in too tight pants that grope each other on Sunday afternoons..... well okay maybe to them but they shouldn't have picked on me in school... jerks.. they shall rue the day... oops sorry I digress... I do that sometimes like the time that my uncle and I.. darn it digressed again, it's kinda bad when you digress from your digression into a oops doing it again....**

LOL - Yeah, bro, you should start your own blog - "Raspy's Ramblings". Now that I've abandoned the "rambling" part...

he can :hug: on me all he wants! he's not a "man" yet! :naughty: he's still momma's boy! :cheeky:

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