I know alot of you have read the book "The Five Love Languages" (I haven't....yet.... :unsure: ). Anyhow, here is a quick quiz that ranks the love languages for you.

For those who have read the book, try the quiz & let us know if it comes out accurately.

Here are my results, and they seem to be pretty accurate, for me:

Physical Touch -- 30% (9)
Words of Affirmation -- 23% (7)
Quality Time -- 20% (6)
Acts of Service -- 20% (6)
Receiving Gifts -- 7% (2)


Just wondering about you other guys....now I'm gonna email the quiz to Ty... B)

Nah, I haven't read it either. But here is my score:

Words of Affirmation -- 30% (9)
Quality Time -- 30% (9)
Receiving Gifts -- 3% (1)
Acts of Service -- 7% (2)
Physical Touch -- 30% (9)

So, do I have to turn in my man card?

Here are mine:

Words of Affirmation 20% (6)
Quality Time 37% (11)
Receiving Gifts 10% (3)
Acts of Service 0% (0)
Physical Touch 33% (10)

I am a quality time person followed closely by physical touch (as in affection not sexual). As you can see Acts of Service just doesn't do it for me which is bad because that's my hubby's love language and hardest for me to do but I do try. I think my hubby struggles with it too because although he does try to spend quality time with me I see him trying to love me with acts of service by working as hard as he can and trying extra hard to provide for us.

Test Results:

Percent Language Score
20%
Words of Affirmation 6
23%
Quality Time 7
33%
Receiving Gifts 10
23%
Acts of Service 7
0%
Physical Touch


THIS IS REALLY INTERESTING TO ME....
10 YEARS AGO BEFORE WE GOT MARRIED, WE DID THAT BOOK DURING OUR PRE-MARITAL COUNSELING. QUALITY TIME AND PHYSICAL TOUCH WERE MY TOP TWO BACK THEN. MAN, THINGS HAVE CHANGED SINCE THEN!! 0% PHYSICAL TOUCH????? :( THAT CAN'T BE A GOOD THING.....BUT I THINK IT'S PARTLY BECAUSE OF ALL THE CRAP WE'VE GONE THROUGH IN THE LAST YEAR! GUESS I NEED TO WORK ON THAT!!!

Yep, right on target for me. I'm bi-lingual.

Words of Affirmation 20%
Quality Time 30%
Receiving Gifts 10%
Acts of Service 10%
Physical Touch 30%

7% Words of Affirmation 2

33% Quality Time 10

10% Receiving Gifts 3

30% Acts of Service 9

20% Physical Touch 6

I took this this morning and my score changed a tiny bit...?

Gonna forward this to hub and see if he will do it...

Words of Affirmation -- 33% (10)
Quality Time -- 13% (4)
Receiving Gifts -- 0% (0)
Acts of Service -- 23% (7)
Physical Touch -- 30% (9)


Now, like Deb, I'm thinking of emailing this to my wife. But I'm unsure... she's usually really unpredictable when it comes to receiving stuff like this.

Well, suprisingly Ty did it AND emailed the results back to me....with the comment "I don't know how accurate it is".... :rollseyes: ....but from what I know about him, it's dead on....

Seeing it in front of me, tho, just reaffirms what I need to do more of for him....

Edit to say: Oh, and I emailed HIM my results, too.... B)

Well, I asked her to email her results to me. Still waiting.

I was afraid that if I emailed my results to her first, that she'd take it as me telling her what she needs to do for me.

Okay, so she calls me and she says, "So... I notice that you're asking for MY results, but you didn't send me yours!!"

So I sent her mine.

She's disappointed that my "Quality Time" score is lower than hers.

Now, see - that's what's wrong with quizzes like this. Someone's gonna get torqued 'cuz their mate isn't what they thought they were.

I see this as an opportunity for healing. Mrs. Redguard can see exactly where you're coming from and what's important to you. Can you 'splain it to her that way? What were her strengths and weaknesses?

Okay, so here's my wife's score:

Words of Affirmation -- 13% (4)
Quality Time -- 30% (9)
Receiving Gifts -- 7% (2)
Acts of Service -- 30% (9)
Physical Touch -- 20% (6)

She's "bilingual" in Acts of Service and Quality Time. What does one do to make such a woman happy?

You do her chores for her (not regularly, just a spontaneous thing) and spend quality time. How do you define quality time? I define it as sitting there, making moon-eyes at each other and talking.

Well, I can only do one of those things better.

You're gonna laugh at me, but I honestly (literally) do all the chores in the house.
- Vacuuming
- Dishes (both by hand and dishwasher)
- Picking up after her (cups she leaves behind on the table, clothes on the floor)
- Laundry
- Bathtub


I know I can improve on Quality Time though... but after all these feelings of resentment that I have built up inside of me, I usually just want to be by myself.

But we still do a lot of stuff together. Just this past sunday, we had dinner and a movie. And that's a regular thing for us.

Key word there is regular. Do something that's not regular. Take her to putt-putt golf. Or to a picnic in the country. Just the two of you. Leave Little Redguard with a babysitter.

Regularity does not equal quality. And I don't consider watching a movie, either at home or in a theater, quality time. You can't talk during a movie.

Kerense and I have quality time after the kids go to bed. We sit on the couch, hold hands and talk about life. We are generally careful to avoid depressing subjects, to keep our spirits up. We work on a couple's devotional. Stuff like that. That's quality time.

7% Words of Affirmation 2
37% Quality Time 11
33% Receiving Gifts 10
17% Acts of Service 5
7% Physical Touch 2

No surprises there. Hubby's is Physical Touch.

That's how I plan on using it....keeping in mind the top 2 things that are important to Ty (Physical Touch followed by Quality Time) and work on implementing that kind of stuff more....

Me too!

I just want her to say a lot of nice things to me and make me feel like I'm da man.

And then afterwards, she can "physically touch" me, if you know what I mean. :|

Before squat gets to it first:

sigworthy :thumbsup:

My scores are very close to Mrs. Redguard's......hmmmm

You deserve this one:

String=Squat! :rolf:

:haha:

Oh - if you got :poop: out of that one, you're just like him. :lol:

Words of Affirmation 27%

Quality Time 23%


Receiving Gifts 7%

Acts of Service 17%

Physical Touch 27%

very interesting test!!

:haha:

Test Results:

Percent Language Score
17%
Words of Affirmation 5
30%
Quality Time 9
3%
Receiving Gifts 1
17%
Acts of Service 5
33%
Physical Touch 10



There's mine! B)

20% Words of Affirmation 6
23% Quality Time 7
7% Receiving Gifts 2
40% Acts of Service 12
10% Physical Touch 3

No suprises there

:lena:

Test Results:


17% Words of Affirmation 5

30% Quality Time 9

3% Receiving Gifts 1

13% Acts of Service 4

37% Physical Touch 11

No surprsises there either!!

Okay. I have a question. What if on mnay of the questions I had to chose the lesser of two evils? And how can current relationship health and history affect the outcome of this little quiz? I mean can I look at this as being accurate? Or is this obly reflecting my current needs at the present state of the relationship?

Well, from what I understand this is just kind of a guide, I guess if you read the book you get a better idea of how to interpret the results, etc.

For me, on the questions, sometimes I liked BOTH of them but had to pick one, sometimes I didn't really care for either....

And I'm SURE your current feelings reflect on the quiz....your results would be what you need CURRENTLY to feel loved by your husband, if he starts meeting those needs then I bet your results "may" evolve & change....

How are we to handle conflicting "languages"? I mean one of his high ones was physical touch, and I jut don't feel like touching him so much. Just force self to do it any way? That would be uncomfortable and buiild resentment wouldn't it?

One of my highs was acts of service, but in the last 6 years I have been shown time anjd time again that it ain't gonna happen...

What to do abotu conflicts??

I think the general premise of the love lanuages is that if you start to fill your spouse's love tank (in this case physical touch) over time they will begin to reciprocate. It probably won't happen instantly but by a sincere effort things should improve over time. When both parties are aggrieved in a marriage someone has to step up to the plate and get the ball rolling otherwise things will never improve. If at first you feel like you have trouble speaking your spouse's love language because of resentment maybe it would help to look at the things you do as an investment in your marriage to help yourself rather than feeling resentment because you are doing things for your spouse. Then maybe over time you can come to a place where you actually want to do things for your spouse.

well said, Sarah! :amen:

PS...LOVE the scriptures in your sig...:thumbsup:

Its so hard to do, ya know?

It's extremely hard to do especially when often there are wrongs on both sides. I'm sure your husband feels just as aggrieved over certain things in your relationship as you do whether you feel it's justified or not. But look at it this way, do you want things to be the same way they are between you this time next year? Do you see things changing carrying on the way you are both doing things now? If you want change then you need to start with a change and starting with love languages is a positive change. Because even if things don't change at least you will have invested your time and energy into something positive and not destructive to your marriage.

Thanks...Its gonna be a looooonnngg hard road...

Yes, but marriage is definitely something worth fighting for.