Why men look around at other women all the time? If you love and are attracted to you wife, why do you continue to look?

Do you realise that when your wife sees you looking she feels ugly? I mena if she wasn't ugly or unattractive to you , you wouldn't be trying to get your eyes pleased by loking elsewhere, right ladies? Do you feel this way when your husband looks at other women?

well, Ty doesn't really look at other women....oh, I KNOW he looks, but he doesn't gaze longingly or look for a long time. I know he notices other women, but since he never spends any time staring at them OR commenting on them, it doesn't bother me.

If he DID act that way, however, yes it would annoy me & he'd get a :lena: at the VERY least.... B)

I used to do it, and I used the excuse "My mom always said she'd be worried if my dad didn't do it."

Well, a few years ago, it almost went too far. So I decided it was in my best interest to stop looking. Now, that's not to say I am completely dead; I still notice. But I don't go out of my way to look. And, since Jan. 30, 2002, I've found less desire to look.

Why do men do it? Kerense has her ideas on this, and it goes back to some very basic male instinct patterns you can see, even in the OT. Polygamy was popular for a few reasons. While one wife was pregnant and 'unavailable', the other was ready to go. Does this make it right? God said it didn't. But men's desires for women still overrode the desire to obey God's laws.

Ya know - for the most part (stressors and illness aside), men are always ready to go. Women aren't a preacher said this is to ensure the proliferation of the species and to ensure population control. He says :eyebrows: She says :naughty:

So, men leer for the same reason they're ready to go almost every night.

That's what I mean--Ogling would be way :lena: and :ar15 and :listenup:

But you are okay with glancing at another woman's legs or cleavage or whatever? I am insulted when he does it. I know I don't catch him every time he does it, especially since he is out there in the world while I am trapped in my house with only kids to keep me company, so I am sure there are plenty of pretty people for him to admire. I just had a thought. Maybe I find it so offensive because we seldomly have.."relations" because he always acts uninterested, so when I see him showing interest in other women I am hurt. There. I figured it out. That is why it bothers me. :doh:

Abe doesn't stare at other women. Heck, he's the one who looks at ME when I say "Hey, check out that cutie!" :eyebrows: Altho he finds Pam Anderson to be "good-lookin'" :sick: She's all plastic! At least what I've got is the real deal! :P

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I'm not going to touch this one....where's Jacks when I need him?

yeah, I mean, I glance at guys I find attractive as well, but IMO that doesn't mean that he nor I aren't attracted to each other....Ty doesn't stare & ogle, neither do I...but that doesn't mean we can't appreciate an attractive member of the opposite sex, yannow?

I look at hot women. But I also look at ugly women... and men and children and dogs and cats and cell phones.

I don't think that looking at someone or something always has to be about preferring them over your spouse.

Sometimes, looking at a person doesn't always have to do with how attractive you find them.

I was friends with this really busted chick back in high school. Massively unattractive. Every single day, she'd walk into the cafeteria and start talking to us about all the guys that were checking her out. We tried to be polite by not laughing out TOO loudly.

What she doesn't realize is that these guys that she "thinks" were checking her out were probably looking at her and thinking to themselves, "Is this ugly chick seriously walking around here thinking that her poo doesn't stink?"

Sometimes, we just look at people because they're just odd... or different. A look is just a look.

What's offensive is when a guy is walking in one direction, a girl walks past him heading in the other direction, and he fully stops, turns around and maintains his gaze on her until she's no longer visible to him.

Men are programmed to look, that is how we found a mate in the first place. It is very difficult to "just turn it off" once we are married.

But I don't think that this is necessarily about men. It's about attention. Men will look at women who dress in a way to draw attention. And the women are looking at them too!

I promise you. If any one of us were in a mall with our wives, and a guy walked by with no shirt on, sporting a 6-pack and all sorts of other muscles ripping along his body, every woman is going to look at him. Even guys will be looking.

NOT because they necessarily find him attractive. But because he's dressed or presented himself in a way that pretty much forces people to look at him and ask themselves, "did I just see what I thought I saw?".

It's like those girls that get those bumper-sticker tattooes. They're not there because they hold some sentimental value. They're there because they want to draw attention to their butts. And it usually works.

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I must be missing something to see! What is a bumper-sticker tattoo?

I'm sure you've seen them.

They're the tattooes that girls get on their lower backs.

You know I'm gonna have that song stuck in my head all day now!

Do you think I am just beign stupid and insecure to feel hurt or offended when my hub looks at someone who is obviously a whloe lot prettier or more perfect physically than me?

Maybe I am just not confident in my own appearance to feel comfortable with my husband looking elsewhere. It reassures me that I am not "hot" enough for him, that what he has is not good enough.. Surely I'm not the only woman who feels this way......?

What? You know something I don't? Care to fill me in, wiseass?

"I Got a Crick in my Neck"

Lena - where did I hear this? :gotcha:

I don't look in that way at other women.... Don't need to I got Misty.... With my Girlfriends I used to look until I decided that I wanted Misty to be mine for the rest of my life......

Misty get's hurt if an attractive woman comes onthe TV and I don't look away.... she's trying to get over it... I'm getting used to not watching very much TV.......

Most men do it because we are animals and we have the base instinct to propagate the species......

We are wired to try and spread as much of our seed as possible to make sure that our line would survive.....

As higher primates we should be above our instincts but many of us fall....

*Knock on wood* I don't plan on looking at any woman the same way I look at my wife...... I will look at them to make sure they're not going to cross my path and I blindly run into them, as a writer I will look at them to help inspire characters and character description... but there is only one woman in my life that revs my engine.... Misty D. Asplund..... my beautiful sexy wife......

Here's the rest of the lyrics so that EVERYone knows what you're talking about! :tease:

Well we enter the facility, the place is jumpin' everything is crowded, the music is bumpin'. We make a lap with drink in hand, Try to walk around but we're in demand. About then sweety went to the ladies' room and that's when the DJ played the boom - Boom, boom- bang- biggity- bang. I looked over my shoulder and I was like, "DANG!" A chick was dancin' on the bar so I double-checked, sweety came back, something wrong with your head? I said, Mmmhmm! Got a crick in my neck (repeat 3 times).

Like the fellas on the beach in the summertime, checkin' out the girls walkin' up and down the coastline. Splashin' in the surf in their bikinis, others tan on a blanket while they sip martinis. All winter long fellas did those crunches 'cause the girls are like bananas man, they roll in bunches. Lookin' for fun but didn't keep it in check, what happened to you boy? I got a crick in my neck! (Chorus)

You're hangin' on my words like a life preserver, my rhyme is your table and I'll be your server. Paid attention to the song like a record exec, bobbed your head up and down and got a crick in your neck! (Chorus)

Looks to me like Clay's been havin' some cricks in HIS neck. :P

Sorry Raspy, but I don't think that's fair.

To me, it says that you're guilty of lust just because you're a man, and that in order to prove your innocence you have to look in the other direction. You weren't the one that put the woman on the tv.

Misty is trying to get better...

Her parents get on her about it all the time.

She's not as bad about now as she was when we first got married and she's getting better....

She was hurt by her first husband's infidelity and I have to pay the price....

I keep reminding her all the time the ring on my finger isn't what keeps me here, my wanting to be here keeps me here..... If I wanted what was on the screen I'd be chasing it.... I chased the woman I married I got the woman I married... I'm not about to screw it up by even entertainint hte thought of wanting something else... why would I want anything other than the love of my wife?

Ahhh.. That explains a lot. So sorry this had to happen to her... :(

On one level so am I but on a nother level if he wasn't a cheating ass I wouldn't be married to teh most beautiful and sexy woman inthe world (well as far as I'm concerned she is.... to each their own)