Not sure if I was supposed to go into the Men's area or not, but I did. When I saw Interracial Marriage, I just had to look. Sorry.

As a FYI, I am in an interracial marriage. I'm Chinese, my husband is Black. Neither of us fit our stereotypes for ethnicity, or what we do for a living. We're non-conformists.

I think our children are beautiful. They've actually gotten a lot of offers to do modeling. We don't get a lot of Black/Chinese mixes here in the Southwest and it really intrigues people.

We've had no issues with them growing up so far. In fact, they get probably more positive attention than other children. They are always remembered and stand out because they don't look like or blend in with the other children.

Plus, between my husband and I, we speak more than a half dozen languages, which our children are benefiting from.

Just reading the men's topic on this made me think that if you marry a black person, that it's not that great. My husband, next to Christ, has been one of the best things that has happened in my life. I've grown and become such a better person because of him and so blessed to have him. We both very dynamic people at our church, in our community, work, the lives of our children, our daughter's school, etc. We enjoy and thrive on being different.

My daughter says to us now often, "I'm a risk taker. I love who I am." We are bringing up our children to love who they are, with all their uniqueness, as well as love and appreciate other people just as they are.

My parents are prejudice and still judge my husband because he is black. What a shame. We don't let it bother us anymore. It's their problem. Our children are very happy, well adjusted. We have a happy home filled with peace usually. We have a great marriage. We enjoy not blending in.

The kind of marriage I would not want our children having is unequally yoked marriages. That's it. Oh, and they must be heterosexual. There are some other obvious things like being respectful, not abusing the other person, etc.

Gotta run. Movie time.

I agree...basically, it's on the inside that counts, not the outside.

Well said Doris.

Thank you for sharing that.

One of the dearest couples I know is interracial. He is the associate pastor at our church.

Our church is predominately white and he is black. When he came in with a white wife, nobody even flinched. He is one of the best speakers I have ever heard, and is also a good friend. He is the first person with whom I can discuss racial differences without worrying about what he thinks.

I hope you didn't read that from my post...


I think we're all on the same page that it's a non-issue.



My only concern was the social ramifications of having an IRM (which just shows my shallowness... : )

Not sure why'd I care anyway as long as my daughters husband is a stand-up guy. Probably just that fatherly protection thingy.


I guess, like yourself, it just makes you a better/stronger person having to deal with all those jerks who have do have issues w/it.

As I said in Men's Forum thread - here are my thoughts on this:


Dude could be black, white, purple, rainbow, jewish, russina, asian, polish, german - doesn't matter - NO MAN is good enough for my daughter.



:ar15 :swoosh:

Depends on where you live for the interracial marriage and social ramifications. Here in the southwest, I don't see a big deal usually.

I felt I could really speak from experience on the interracial thing since I am in an interracial marriage.

Gutter, you sound like my husband. He about flipped when a few of the boys in our daughter's class showed interest in her (she's 5). Yup, this will sure be a challenge when she's 15. I can see the chastity belt being locked and something about a shotgun? It's a dad thing.

There are a few IR marriages/relationships in my family.

I'm perfectly fine with them (as if I have the right not to be).

I have (had) one uncle married to a white lady... they lived in Nottingham, England. She's actually one of my favourite aunts. Very nice... and she makes me Yorkshire Pudding. My uncle died a few months ago, unfortunately. Lung cancer.

I have another uncle that's married to a Filipino lady. She's cool. Makes me spring rolls and other Filipino dishes. Teaches me a few words in Tagalog.

And then I have a few cousins (male and female) who date white people exclusively... which I think defeats the purpose of saying, "It's what inside that counts" because if that were the case then you'd have a bit more variety.

GR - get your "Thread Hijack" thing ready...

I remember sitting in a rocking chair with my newborn oldest daughter in the hospital. She was about three hours old. I couldn't take my eyes off her and the nurse said, "That is such a good father."

I looked up and said, "Ya know, in about 15 years I'll be in the same pose -- sitting in my rocking chair cradling...a shotgun, saying 'son, you wanna date my daughter?'" :booyah:

Well when Brit gets ready to date it'll be me polishing my broadsword, my wife with her scimitars, my son with his shotgun, my BIL and FIL, and couple friends with various firearms, and my buddy Wayne the non serving Marine telling marine stories when the first boy hits the doorstep....


Boy No means NO, and you will have my daughter home by <insert time here> Or you will call and have a darned good explanation before <insert time here>, or we come hunting....

we're just a lot protective....

My aunt is Filipino. I love that lady; she has such a positive outlook on life.
Unfortunately my uncle won't allow their children to speak Tagalog because they were getting teased. I think it's such a shame, especially since most of their family (including their grandma, who lives with them) doesn't speak English. I also think it's disrespectful that my uncle hasn't even tried to learn Tagalog. I mean, to not learn your spouse's native language...!!!
But what do I know, I'm just a kid :rollseyes:

Well I hope no one else got any bad impressions about black ppl from the Mens Thread forum..


And Yes, you are most certainly allowed to read all the threads in there. In fact I encourage it... I don't want anything offensive in there, (beside the typical male genital talk) Plus I don't want it to seem like a "Behind Closed Doors" type of thing....


Personally my Brother married a Japanese Woman in Japan, and has two cool boys. the oldest looks so much like him it's SCARY


My sister in law is living w/ her Black boyfreind who is a cool guy.


Personally I think it's just preference.... I could care less about IR couples, but I'm kinda glad Heather is the same ethnic background as me, cuase we don't have to deal with some of those difficulties that my brother and her sister deal with.