My co-worker just brought me some lunch. I had to laugh.

She saw me in the caf yesterday eating a mac n cheese frozen dinner for lunch. She sat next to me and asked me if I didn't feel shame. I said that our budget is tight at the moment.

Then she asked me why I didn't just bring Sunday night's leftovers for dinner. I told her that Sunday's dinner was Saturday's leftovers. And we had chicken on Saturday.

(Jamaican rule of thumb - Soup on Saturday, BIG HUGE dinner on Sunday. Wife wasn't raised in typical Caribbean fashion, so she doesn't abide by these rules.)

My coworker shook her head in disappointment and told me that she's gonna have to kidnap my wife and train her. Then she said that she's gonna cook some lunch for me and bring it for me tomorrow (being today). I took it all as a joke.

Lo and behold, she just arrived at my desk with a warm tupperware container with rice, chicken, and vegetables. She even brought me a fork!



Now... if I were to tell my wife about this, she'd probably burst a vein in her forehead. Especially if I had to get into explaining why she ended up bring me some lunch in the first place.

Would any of the wives here react the same way?

Yeah, I'd probably over react too. Hubby and I constantly have food battles and I want to feed him well so if someone else felt the need to "show me how it's done" I would take that pretty hard.

Actually a gal at Ty's work took him under her wing & was bringing him home-cooked meals for lunch....this went on a LOOONG time, months & months, until her office moved to a different building.

It didn't bother me. Ty never eats lunch ("too busy" :rollseyes: ), so I was actually glad to see he was getting something healthy to eat during the day rather than either nothing or fast food....

But what's wrong with a frozen tv dinner? Those aren't really THAT bad for you, Ty loves Stouffer's mac & cheese; also Swanson makes a pretty good Mexican meal....I have those on hand for him to eat on the weekends for lunch...

That is a tough one. wouold ou be okay with a man bringing your wife special lunches? Some women show their interest in men with their generosity. Be careful, Red...

I was actually surprised when she said that. But (BUT!) you have to keep in mind where she's coming from.

She's a "back home in the old country" kinda woman. So frozen dinners aren't the accepted form of sustenance in her opinion.

I had the Stouffer's meal too.

Well, that's the other thing.

If a man was doing stuff for my wife, I'd take it like he was trying to move in on my turf... especially since my wife is 26 and I could only imagine men 24 and up (and I mean waaay up) feeling comfortable enough to try to make a move.

But my situation is a bit reversed.

This coworker of mine is like... 39 or something.

oh..I forget. Older women have no desire for younger men at all.. :rollseyes:

Come on Red--Don't be naive.. Its a possibility.

oh, sooooooo old..... :smack:

That stuff only happens on TV... and in dirty romance novels.

LOL

I didn't say she was "old".

She's just older than me... by 12 years.

Have any of you seen a movie called "Prime" with Uma Thurman and Meryl Streep?

Good movie.

Surely you're kidding me....

And in Broken Arrow, Oklahoma.

hmmmmm.....I dunno Red.....she MIGHT just have a "thing" for ya.... B)


Seriously, you know your wife better than anyone else. If you think she'd REALLY have a problem with it, you probably should mention it to your co-worker. But if it was ME, I'd be like, "Hey, go for it! More nutritious than a frozen dinner PLUS saves me money buying them...." :thumbsup:

Red, if you were Abe....:lena:

Seriously, I dang near chased Abe around the yard when he told me that some "older lady" :rollseyes: brought him a warm, Tupperware container of baked beans at work! When he told me as if was nothing, I almost cried. Then he was sorry he even said anything. Of course my feelings were hurt! Made me feel like I don't do enough for him at home or he just didn't appreciate what I DO do for him!
Abe had said that I had nothing to worry about, that this lady was older, has 5 kids, all teens and a husband at home. BIG WHOOP! Think I cared about that?! The fact was she FED MY HUSBAND as if she felt sorry for him or as if she was trying to "make a move" or if she felt responisble to feed him....and hey! I was pissed! Like I said to him...if I EVER find out anything like that again, I will give hima damn good reason to go hungry...THEN she would have every damn reason to feed him!

Ok, climbing off rant box...

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Mine would definitely raise an eyebrow....

Red, I know how you feel.......It's hard being a hottie.

I agree. It's not the fact that hubby was fed. It's that by someone else feeding him it insinuates that I am somehow not doing my job properly in feeding my hubby. Especially when I know what hubby's feelings are regarding food.

You know the old saying, "the way to a man's heart is through his stomach..." I'd say it's pretty dangerous ground here, Red. Avoid it. Is a little free food worth it?!

And, unfortunately, at my mom & dad's church...

See Red, as a 39-year old, "older woman" I would have to say that you're just too old for me! I prefer 20 year-olds. :P And since the teenage boys at the gas station are always hitting on me...20 isn't much of a stretch. :P

Seriously, the notion that another woman was moving in on my husband with food wouldn't be what got me upset in this situation. I would be upset that I wasn't meeting my husband's needs. I guess it has to do with love languages, but I take things like that very seriously. My husband usually has the lunch that everyone envies. And I know that sounds silly, but it's one way I show him love. When he's on a site where there's a microwave, I always make sure he can have left overs for lunch. And it never ceases to amaze me when I hear what the other guys say about this. Most of their wives don't even make them dinner, let alone pack their lunch.

I tell my husband everything, so I never think it's wise to keep anything from your spouse...but in this case, I don't know how you're going to explian it without her blowing a gasket.

I see what you're all saying, and I can understand it.

This was the first (and only) time that it was done. I really and honestly don't expect that something like this would go on. I also don't feel as though I'm saying or doing anything that would encourage it.

Truth is that my co-worker's assumption about my wife was wrong... and I told her that. My wife is always on my tail about me taking food to work for lunch. Whether it's leftovers, or one of many frozen dinners that she's stored up in the freezer.

It's just that, at the moment, we're low on food. :)

I think that the way I presented the above situation may have made it seem like something a lot more than it really was though, honestly.

Wow - entertaining story.

I'm sort of weird about women making lunch for a man who is not her husband. It's sort of overstepping some sort of unspoken woman boundary. "Thou shalt not feed thy neighbor's husband" or something.

:rolf:

That's funny! Now where was that in the bible?