Ya'll seem to air your dirty laundry and issues that are happening in your marriage on here so I guess I can too.

Saturday night we went out with another couple and had pizza and beers. My wife had a few beers (not drunk by any means) and was feeling... uh... frisky. We were supposed to go home and pick up some brownie mix then meet back at our friend's house to play a game and eat brownies but she wanted to take a little extra time while at home... then go over there. For the record this isn't like my wife so I was surprised and generally all for it (I'm never too tired or rushed for that!) but as we start into it I started thinking that it was either the beer or something else that was making her this way b/c she's never like this. Now, admittedly I have some serious self-worth issues since her affair and though I desire her to be aggressive sexually (or at least initiate) I worry that... well I guess I view that as a trait I both do and don't want her to have b/c a sexually aggressive woman might be sexually aggressive with someone else?! I'm crazy... I know that. My biggest fear is losing my wife. I know that Satan has found our "chink" and some day will try and get her to have another affair but... I mean the woman she is now is so opposite the woman who had the affair that I can't even imagine her doing it! I'm just all mixed up... I've hurt my wife b/c she fears that I think lowly of her b/c I still hurt from the affair and now she doesn't want to be sexually aggressive for fear of what I'll think... I've forgiven her, I love her and pray that I'll be 100% healed every day but fear grips me often. Anger takes hold. I hate that this still holds on after so long... I guess I just needed to rant...

It's good you recognize satan at work in this situation....he's the one putting doubts in your mind!

Praying that you'll be able to banish these negative thoughts & really be able to enjoy it when your wife suprises you like that....:eyebrows:

stupid satan...

Do you guys have a verse you stand on in your marriage? One that you own, really take hold of in these situations? Because in Christ you can do all things, even rise about these doubts and anxieties.

After having withstood issues of our own in our marriage, I just feel like God is the only way.

We like Phil. 3:12-14

" 12Not that I have already obtained all this, or have already been made perfect, but I press on to take hold of that for which Christ Jesus took hold of me. 13Brothers, I do not consider myself yet to have taken hold of it. But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, 14I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus. "