Do you guys notice cycles in your marriage? Like times when it's the honeymoon all the time, you're all lovey-dovey, nothing annoys you, nothing to argue about....then it cycles around to when it kind of feels like you're just "together". Not necessarily bad, but little things start to annoy you, you argue about stuff, not quite so lovey-dovey anymore....

Anyone else? What do you do to make it cycle back UP again?

oh man do i know the feeling! it gets frustrating sometimes!! i haven't found a "cure" for it either. sometimes i wonder who is having the PMS---seriously!! The one thing that i do notice, is that when i'm down, he's up and when he's down i'm up. thank god for that because if both of us were down at the same time, oh man would we be in trouble!!!!

My wife and I have our hills and valleys and I get really nervous when we are in a valley because during the deepest one my wife had an affair. I was really excited recently when we were in a valley and instead of being afraid we talked about it. It wasn't this long conversation, it was more the mutual noting that we were in a valley. We noted it, shrugged our shoulders and moved on. We were both really faithful that we'd pull through and times would be good again. It did wonders for my fears and made me want to pay more attention to her!

Right now we're climbing the peak again and some of the things my wife did to pull us outta our ruts was she shook things up by doing stupid, silly things like; pulling the back of her sweatpants down while she was doing the dishes so I'd walk into the kitchen and see her cute little butt, walk in front of the t.v. or by the side of the computer and flash me, 'honked' my package in the supermarket, throws food at me when she's cooking, makes faces at me when I'm grading papers until I look up then goes back to reading or knitting pretending nothing is wrong (smiling of course), etc. She's great at making me pay attention to her! In a slump ladies? Men not paying attention? No matter how old a guy or how long you've been married remember that though you take your body for granted, little naked bits of skin in unexpected places or at unexpected times will probably get his attention right quick! How can a man be in a valley if his wife is constantly flashing him?! Good luck!


P.S. oh... and Carmen Electra's Aerobic Striptease....guys.... get it for your wife.... I've never seen the DVD but I've reaped the benefits! :)

Yup.... :thumbsup: I think its normal and nothing to worry about. Usually on our down cycles we notice we forgot to schedule a date night, and Wes' hours are more messed up.... etc. So I guess we could avoid the downcycle just by being more observant.


P.S. I thought this was just another sex thread so I didn't open it until now...

I look at it like this: How could we possibly appreciate those beautiful hills without valleys?

Everyone has ups and downs, if they say they don't they're either lying or dillusional. We're human. The mature thing to do is be aware of this. Then take care to not allow those darn valleys last too long. I love how Seige's wife takes care of it. Good stuff!

Right now I'm doing this 30-Day's Women's Challenge. I've challenged 104 other women I know personally and I'm sharing my 30-Day experience with them daily.

It's very convicting. Yesterday was Day 11.

Because I'm sending everyone a daily report, I'm a lot more careful of how I react to Henry. God is moving and changing in our marriage.

What I'm learning is even during a week, I have ups and downs. When I'm in a down, I have to fight harder and rely more on the strength of God to meet me through those times, have great self-control, go to the Word of God, verbally speak out Scripture to combat the negative feelings I may have -- not necessarily caused by him, but just how I feel and how things are going.

I agree with Lynn. Without valleys, one doesn't realize the hills or appreciate them that much. This 30-Day Challenge is sure challenging me. I'm thinking, now we're 1/3 the way through.

It's amazing what God can do through a person wholly submitted to him. I've even been far more careful to stay away from things that cause me to think incorrectly and fighting my thoughts to go into the fantasy world in my head.

There is so much more peace in our household. There was peace before, but there is an even greater, more intimate peace...and a playfulness. It takes a great deal of work. I want God to change our good marriage into this extraordinary marriage.

Doris....what's this 30-day challenge? Is it something you came up with on your own? I'd be interested in checking it out...