i have an honest question that i am too chicken to bring up w/ my doctor but it has been a concern of mine for many years. i have NEVER been able to have the "Big O" naturally-----and by that, i mean, with my spouse only. it wasn't until about 7 yrs in to our marriage when a friend of mine introduced me to the "friend" and told me how it could help bring me to orgasm. i was too chicken to actually buy a REAL "friend"...so my husband and i have used a shoulder massager that we found on clearance at JC Penney's. it's a huge help in the bedroom, and i have enjoyed being able to climax when we are together now. my question, however, is "am i going to have to use this thing FOREVER??" or will i eventually get to the point where i can have the Big O w/o using this thing?? i know this is a REALLY personal question .....and if you don't believe in toys, then please just know that i appreciate your opinion, i just don't want to hear it! (said w/ love) i need some serious advice.....as "clean" as you can be with this subject. i have only talked about this with one person in my life.....(gutter's wife)......so it is something that i take very seriously....i'm not trying to be perverted about anything....just trying to figure it all out.

Are you talking about having an O during intercourse or about having your hubby give you an O without the use of toys?

:dunno: either/or/both........not really sure the best way since i haven't really experienced it. i was looking for a good medical website or book that might help. haven't found anything yet though.
any thoughts??? :(

I don't know of any medical sites, but my search would be as good as yours since I am terrible at googling. You could also check www.wikipedia.com and do female orgasm.

Do you do Kegels regularly?

We use toys, too, and I orgasm easier than without....AND it took me & DH YEARS to find just the right position for me to get one with intercourse only.

If this is too personal a question, just tell me to mind my own business.... B) ... BUT have you & DH discovered your "G spot" yet? Because that's what helped us....Ty went in search of it one time manually (sounds like searching for buried treasure! :haha: ) and found it....so we had an idea of where it was, then kept trying different positions until we found one that worked. I think it helped, too, that Ty knew where it was, then he had an idea of where to "aim".....

OK, WAAAYYY TMI now, I'm outta here for the moment.... :whistle: :bike:

Hubby and I still haven't figured it out through intercourse yet. Guess one of these days we'll drop the kids off at Grandma's and spend the day trying to figure it out :lol:. It tooks us a little over a year to figure out what worked for me none intercourse-wise and found it was a combo of oral and manual stimulation. We just really fluked on it one day trying something new and bingo :lol: So just keep trying new stuff and have fun!

The cool thing is learning, eh? I love to learn and explore.....it's so much fun.

****standing in a corner giggling and blushing like she's 12 yrs. old again!!****

thanks for the suggestions! when life calms down for us a bit we'll sure give it another try! i know that the "g spot" is important and i'm not convinced that he's found that one yet, so that's worth checking in to!!! thanks everyone!!! sorry if i embarressed or offended anyone!!

love the girl talk!!!
nikki :booyah: :thumbsup: :D :haha:

:eyebrows: oh trust me, you'll KNOW when he finds it!! :booyah:

you crack me up!!! :rolf:
now i'm really ready to go to town!!!!woooohoooooo!!!! :drool: