DWT

Define makin love, what do you do to make love to your souse? Er in other words, what is makin love? What in you says you've made love to your spouse? Is it, for example, a physical act you do? Er sumthin you say? etc

No I am not askin for graphic details. you can keep em to yoursef

:rollseyes: yeah right.... B)

Actually, that's a good question! To be honest, the first thought that comes to my mind when I think of "making love" is the physical act/physcial intimacy.

But not necessarily between the two of you, does that make sense? I mean, it could consist of me giving my DH a great backrub, among other things....and not expecting anything in return...

When we say "makin' love" we're usually talking about the physical act.

"Lovin's", however, is what Andiesmama said. Backrub, smoochin', making eyes, etc.

That particular expression makes me want to roll my eyes and start saying sarcastic things. But I won't :)

DWT

Mmmmmm ok... I don't understand that... but ok

I define makin love in what I do to my wife, sumthin happened a week er so agp that really rather hurt me. I wanted to 'make love' to my wife, wanted to make er feel good. I wanted to give er an O, takes 15+ mins er so. For the second time in as many days she denid me this. We still had intercourse, least the first time, but the second I jes didn't wanna go to town pokin a hole. While yes its still makin love, to me its a bit one sided an I personnaly don't like to O if she doesn't, I jes felt a lil cheated bout it was all an was curious how ya'll defined makin love.

I'm pregnant and I knew at the time it was unlikely that I would be able to O. That doesn't mean that I still wouldn't have been making love to you or you me. I think making love is more a state of mind rather than something physical. While it's great to have bells, whistles and fireworks going I don't feel I'm making any less love when that's not going on.

Even if I "just" pleasure my DH (orally or other), and it's nothing to do with me, I still call that making love....TO my DH. Does that make sense?

DWT

My darlin wife.... I don't wanna hear from you til you answer the question..... its been like 2 weeks an you still hadn't come up wit an answer.

I think Deb thinks like I am, though correct me if I'm wrong. When you pleasure your spouse you make love to em?

Thats all I'm sayin to, I really git off to knowin that I am pleasurin my wife... though......... to be denid pleasurin er is pert near intolerable. Sweetie Sarah, I understand your prego state... I was kinda round when it took place member? hehe But I wasn't talkin bout the one time specfically, I can deal wit once er twice, its the continous ones I've gotta fuss bout.

So that ever one knows, I'm not bashin er anythin, jes curious as to what others thought an Sarah I know you've told me you jes like bein wit me etc but it really makes me feel one sided, its not fair in my book for me to O an you not to, even though I know you say its not bout the O an I agree, but I do really enjoy it is all.

Nuff TMI for you slackers?! LOL

Yes, I think like you A2J....I like pleasuring my DH even IF I don't get anything out of it, if you know what I mean....well, I guess I AM getting something out of it since I like to make him happy....

BUT I can see Sarah's side as well.....I don't ALWAYS have the big "O" when DH & I are together, but it's still great....I just like the closeness & intimacy that comes with making love TOGETHER, when I do "O", it's an added bonus!! :thumbsup:

Don't get me wrong I love Os (I'm blessed to have a hubby that loves to spend the time on me and he's great at it ;)) BUT it's just not the be all and end all for me. If I never had another O in my life it wouldn't be the end of the world for me because what I love even more is just the being together. I don't know if a man can understand this because their physical O I would imagine happens at the same time as their "emotional O" but for me the two are not so heavily intertwined. I would much rather have the emotional O over the physical O though yeah the physical O is great :)

wow, Sarah....that's me, too! I don't think guys understand how NOT important it might be to some of us women, having an "O" or not...

Emotional O?

My guy brain can't wrap around that concept...........ouch.....headache...thinking......too.....much....

Well, that's alright... durin an off board conversation wit the better half I was informed that I was:

A. Inept

B. Stupid

C. only made love to wit er mind

To bad I cain't git in er brain wit er huh? Sucks not to be Male Gay-ibson.

Did I git it right sweetie? Pretty sure I did, if not I can post the msn convo? hehe

I think I understand.

I'll be honest. Though I try and try, I just haven't been able to bring my wife to the big 'O'. It hurts to say that, and please - don't make this sigworthy, quotable, etc. It is not something that I enjoy saying. :(

Still, though I do what I can. She initiates often enough, even without her O that I have come to understand it's more about what Andiesmama said. The intimacy and closeness is what she craves. She tells me, "I can use the buzzer if I need to." As much as I hate it, if that's what it comes to... Hey, sometimes I'll help with that.

Yeah, I think there's more to makin' love then getting your rocks off. As long as she's happy to oblige, then it's not a problem. Do what you can to help, but trust her when she says it's all right.

Now I feel like I have to defend that first paragraph. It's not time, it's not length, it's not actions. She's the only one I haven't been able to bring to O. Or the others were faking really well... :bored:

aww Clay :hug:

I think guys put alot more emphasis on the big "O" than women...for alot of women, it's NOT a "must have"....for some it is, but like Clay said, if your spouse says it's ok for her NOT to orgasm all the time, then you just gotta trust her on that & try to accept it....

DWT

I hear ya Clay brother, I was in the same boat wit Sarah when we got married. I used to joke wit er an say I'd shove my fingers up er nose if she thought it would help. Took along time an a lot of work an in the end it was a fluke that I found out what worked for er.

I hear you bout other gals to, cause I'd never had a problem wit any of dem, so either they were insanely easy er bes fakers I ever saw.

I can accept an deal wit not givin er an O evertime etc, it was the bein denid to do what I wanted to do, I know that doesn't sound really right, jes felt like I wasn't bein allowed to express my love in that way..... at any rate, I hadn't gotta worry bout it now anyways seeins how I found out all that above hehe but I'm now outta practice an it sure takes a while to git back into the swing of thins

practice, though....that's the FUN part....:eyebrows:

There's only been one time we've gone more than once. And that was due to me begging, which only served to ruin the moment.

Rest of post deleted. Depressed ranting about something that doesn't need to be ranted about in a public forum. I need to get off the computer.

I never said any of the sort! You drew your own conclusions. Post the convo and we'll let people decide what it was I said!

DWT

Ok darlin msn posted below:

Sarah says: your just inept

Louis says: at what?

Sarah says: Everything, but specifically in the sexual department

Louis says: so I'm inept......... great

Sarah says: you just don't get it

Louis says: so I'm stupid an inept??

Sarah says: yeah, pretty much!

Louis says: thhanks.....

Louis says: so how do you make love to me?

Sarah says: with my mind

Louis says: huh?

Louis says: you only make love to me in your head?

Sarah says: In a state of mind

Louis says: I rectum.....

The whole Mel Gay - ibson stuff is mine though :)

You also gotta remember that in early pregnancy the woman's sex dirve goes way down--Come the second trimester it will skyrocket. Maybe she'll be more in the mood for the O then.....

:lol: Maybe I should post the version of the convosation that came through on my side of MSN :lol:

Y'all save your MSN stuff? :screwy:

It automatically keeps a log.

Well, my puter is on all the time, so I jes copy an paste whatever I need off the thin cause it's always open... but I tell you what, that gal is flat out crazy le'me tell ya, cause now she's goin to try an feed you folks this line that she didn't really say that! No doubt she'll go an edit the thin er sumthin an post some Sarah version.......

See how she treats me?? I'm so hard done by!

You mean like how you edited the convo? :lol:

YELLOW CARD!

YELLOW CARD! YELLOW CARD! Your out of line Missy!

I'd like to see the sarah version. This could be fun. Like a he said/she said game. Get the popcorn!

I say get a room! :rollseyes:

It was not sexually explicit! Sheesh! :doh:

DWT

Well.. not really it wasn't, cept when you were talkin bout stickin ... uh ya know, an havin me bend such an such. Oh then there was that thin bout the puddin! An I guess the cat comment. mmmmm yeah better jes leave THAT convo out.

no way jose....I've GOTTA hear that "cat comment"....

**where's that popcorn??**

Here ya go!

LOL We don't even HAVE any cats anymore!

:drool: that looks sooooo good! And the best thing is, virtual popcorn doesn't have any calories OR fat!! :booyah: :bounce: :shakeit:

ummm. ..I'm not gonna ask why..

Hey - she's an Admin. We can't warn her. But we can warn you. B) I won't.

'Sides, what's a yellow card? Is that some futbol term? Is that like a yellow flag in the pigskin game?

Geez, you Yanks....least I have my hubby well trained when it comes to REAL football! Get with the program people and watch/play a REAL sport - not that sissy thing you call football :cheeky:

Can't mention what happen to the last cat LOL But they do seem to have a habit of running off or ending up dead... :lol: