Have any of you checked out this site? What do you think? There are parts that I like and other parts really bug me....

I've checked it out & feel the same way....I mean, I TRY to be "gentle" but I think if some of those ladies were in my household on "one of those days" (if ya know what I mean!), they'd probably have a heart attack! :rollseyes:

Have you tried registering? I mean, hokey doodle! They give you a pile of questions you have to answer in order to get in and IMO, it's stupid. I consider myself to be an average mother. I don't need no site telling me otherwise. I haven't been there in a long time....

Yes! I tried registering today actually. I was annoyed that they wanted me to answer questions. Are they so scared of people who believe differently that you have to swear by life or death to never say anything about CIO, formula, or spanking? I don't spank and that's why I was interested..... but that's my CHOICE and I am not afraid to have others speak if they disagree. Its annoying to me that I have to say what I agree with and disagree with. So I wrote back and told them what I didn't agree with, just like they asked...........

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We'll see if they let me post there.............

What is CIO?

Oh, and could you post a link? I'd like to see what ya'll are talkin about...

CIO = Cry It Out (to get your child to learn how to get to sleep on their own)

Altho I did a kind of modified version of it....cry for 5 min, go in and soothe...cry for 7 minutes, go in and soothe...etc.

I tried to get a link for the Gentle Mothering website, but the one I found isn't working right now... :unsure:

I never have had a problem with any of my three kids with geting them to sleep. From the beginning I started putting them down, full tummy and bundled, in the dark room in their own beds. They learned that dark time means sleep time. All slept through the night by the time they were two weeks old--five weeks for the third baby, and only rarely would I have to wake up at night with them. This third one, he is giving us a little harder time thatn the other two. For a couple of weeks about a month or so ago he would wake up twice a night and I had to feed him. He is okay now, sleeps right through. Occasionally he wakes and I just have to roll him over adn cover him back up and replace the pacifier... :thumbsup:

www.gentlechristianmothers.com

They welcomed me as a member.... heehee.... only I have to watch what I say. :doh:

Did they say that?

No they didn't but I can tell that already just looking around. I'm not sure what to do because I can't act like myself. I've already seen several threads where people were talking about the evil things we do to our children ........ like having a schedule.... :screwy: ......... I mean I never considered it an evil thing that we do the same thing at the same time every day. What do other people do?? Eat lunch of 11am one day and 1 pm the next? I don't understand how to work without a schedule. :dunno: I just don't get how they are worked up about weird things

Gosh, it's been awhile since I checked the site out...

They think a schedule is BAD?? :blink:

Maybe every kid is different, but I know that whenever we veered OFF of Andie's schedule, it was craziness....she was one unhappy baby....plus, it just made things alot easier for ME, you know?

Yeah I don't really understand. I'm starting to feel like a wolf in sheeps clothing. I was just reading stuff right now. One lady is rejoicing because her child slept for 6 hours straight for the first time and her child is 17 months. Another lady whos child is 18 months is really angry at everyone whos child sleeps through the night but insists her way is best. So she's unhappy and tired which has to make her the best mother she can be, right?? :unsure:

and the whole thing is....every mom is different...and every KID is different...it's too bad that they can't take differing viewpoints and accept them rather than judge the moms who don't do EVERYthing exactly their way....

There are some good ideas on there, but I could never incorporate everything they advocate into how I parent....it's just not my "style"...nor Andie's, I think....

Right.... I'm mainly there because they have good ideas how to parent without spanking or punishment, at least for me punishment is a last resort option... but if it means I have to think all these things are evil that I already do, I dunno. Maybe I should join baby center instead :P Of course they're the opposite. Hmmmmmmmmmmmm. Maybe I'll start my own parenting forum after my husband's website project is successful :thumbsup:

well....I'm not sure how the site is set up, but maybe if you just steer clear from the areas that talk about things that are opposite of what you do, & hang out only in the areas that you agree with (like the punishment/non-spanking areas) it might be helpful....you'll probably get some good ideas on how to handle discipline in the way you want....

What would they say to a mom who says she uses a belt on her child?

They'd probably call child welfare, then kidnap her and tie her up and beat her with belts until she passes out....?

What about a mom who uses a wooden spoon occasionally?

To both of the above....they probably wouldn't consider that mom a Christian! :rollseyes:

Like I said, you've gotta do what works for you AND your child....and everybody's different...it's just too bad they make moms feel guilty for the choices they've made as far as raising their children....

You'll have to ask yourself :tease:

They consider the way I did what andiesmama said.... letting baby cry for 5 minutes at a time to help baby learn to sleep.... as very very evil and "punitive" .........

See, I'm reading that site and it gives me the creeps. Not my type, for sure.

Oh and I don't use a belt...my sister does. I use my hand, quick little swats. That and timeouts.

What's this world coming to? A friend of mine's 11-year-old daughter wears diapers to bed 'cuz they're letting her potty-train herself. Eleven years old and she still doesn't know that it's a bad thing to wet the bed. My six-year-old knows better. She has problems sometimes, but she knows better.

My friend says, "Yeah, she stopped wearing diapers during the day when she was six." Dude, you need to exercise your authority as a parent and teach the kid something!

Well, that's what I wanted to say. Instead, I just looked him straight in the eye and said, "You're kidding right?" He looked me right in the eye and said, "No."

And people want to know why the world's falling apart!

That's crazy clay!

I would never use a belt--that is just too close to a leather whip in my opinion. I do use a wooden spoon occasionally. A quick flick of the wrist is all it takes--my hads is useless--doesn't get results. Usually now all I have to do is threaten to get "the spoon" and obedience ensues very quickly..I rarely have to actually use it...

I'm not sure how this is related? :dunno:



So anyway..... in the last half hour I had a panicking new parent moment. My son was buzzing around me, like he does, and I was putting laundry into the washer, and he fell down and his his mouth. So he started to cry and I picked him up to hug him and then i looked down and there was blood all over my shirt. There was so much blood in his mouth I couldn't see his teeth. Then i started freaking out and crying and I called my husband who I freaked out also. I have really never seen that much blood and he's never been seriously hurt......... anyway after blood for about 5 minutes he gets all calm, and wouldn't you know? He had just bit his lip-- BAD. But still, I was thinking he knocked a tooth out or something or he would need stitches! I knocked a tooth out at his age. Whew..... new parents, huh? :huh:

One of my kids did that the other day. Hurt her mouth and she bled so bad....downright freaky! She only bit her lip, too. Kids!

awwww....poor baby and mommy!! Was that the "first blood"?

I remember when Andie bit her tongue or lip or something the first time...blood kept pouring out of her mouth, covered the shoulder of my shirt...I thought I was gonna die!! Luckily DH was there and he took over...

Then there was the time she smacked her mouth on the playground...got a fat lip AND a dead tooth as a result, NOW she's got a cap on her front tooth...

OH, and the time she busted her forehead open while I was out of town, she was staying with daddy....had to go to the ER & get stitches...

And she's not even 4 yet.... :rollseyes:

Doesn't matter, tho, how "frequent" the boo-boos are, it's still scary no matter what....

Give him a popsicle...I keep them on hand just for cases like these...;)

When my son was 1 1/2 he was standing at the window watching me do yard work-youknow how kids like to jump and bounce? He was doing that and he bit his lower lip. BIG line in his lip where the lip split. To this day he has an obvious scar and it seems to be growing with him.. :huh:

Andie's still got the scar on her forehead, but it's getting smaller....I need to get some Vitamin E to rub on it...I tried Mederma but it made her itch...

Isaiah had 4 stitches in the middle of his forehead last spring. It's still very obvious.

They've got mederma for kids...

Ohhhhhhhh I didn't think of that. I'm going to have to get some to keep around because I bet he will get hurt more often this summer.... its the age or something... and I bet he would suck on it because of the sugar. Good idea!

That's EXACTLY where Andie's is....what happend with your little one? Andie was running into her bedroom, tripped, and fell right onto one of the runners on her rocking horse.... :(

And they've got 100% fruit ones out there, I buy those, or the sugar-free ones...but yeah, they're good to have in cases like these.

more likely its the gender--You got a boy--Stock up on bandaids!!

I can't find it in any stores around here....but I heard that vitamin E does the same thing....

Scary! That's exactly what David hit!! The runners of the rocking toy.... those things are a menace!

I know it....I wanted to throw it out in the trash as soon as I got home....bleah...thing is, kids are so resilient (sp?), she was back to her normal self the next day!

I STILL freak out when she starts running around like a crazy person....

My oldest takes no chances. If she is walking and bumps into a wall she starts screaming bloody murder.

My youngest is growing up to be an extreme athlete. She gets hurt doing something, she'll keep trying until it doesn't hurt. She cries some, but rarely for more than 15 seconds. Then the determination enters her eyes, and Big Daddy's heart starts racing.

Awwww..Clay's a Gentle Christian Mother..doesn't it just bring tears to your eyes?? :tease:

Some of those articles--yikes--if my mom had tried holding me all the time, I'm not sure which of us would have died of sensory overload :lol: